<p>I need to know more about Chinese - both traditional and modern culture. (unfortunately, I live in a place where you hardly meet asian folks)</p>
<p>About the girls: isn't it natural that all girls simply follow who they like? ;)
Don't guys, too, date with whom they like, whether the girls are "white" or "black" or whatever? :P</p>
<p>Hmm... is there also anything characterising chinese modern music, daily life culture, videogames, etc.?
(e.g. Japan = j-pop/rock, anime, manga, rpgs, final fantasy, old japanese mythologies, etc. anything similar that is popular in China?)</p>
<p>Yes^, it isn't about race, it's about the lack of self-confidence which usually is a big turn-off for all girls. However, lack of self-confidence is widespread among chinese-american males (I can't say for other asians, but most likely I think it applies). In chinese culture, modesty is emphasized and as someone mentioned, chinese are highly critical (esp. when it comes to self). Both of these are meant to better the person (correcting one's bad habits/not being arrogant/showing bad habits of others so that one can avoid them), however, instead they have tended to exacerbate insecurities. My parents, for example, always tell me to "stand up straight, smile more often, act intelligently, etc, etc..." Therefore, many of us develop insecurities which ultimately chip away at our self-confidence. If that issue is solved, most likely the prospects of male chinese-americans will be good :)</p>
<p>Here's a quote that is related to the modesty thing:</p>
<p>"If I am walking with two other men, each of them will serve as my teacher. I will pick out the good points of the one and imitate them, and the bad points of the other and correct them in myself."</p>
<p>About your first and second point, I highly suggest you read The Banana Boys if you want to really get the various feelings felt by ABC and CBC men in modern society, although it applies to Asian males in general.</p>
<p>Third point, yes. Manhua is the Chinese equivalent of our comic books or Japan's Manga. The Chinese and South Koreans tend to play American video games, MMORPG's are immensly popular over there. Music wise? Electronic and pop. </p>
<p>As for my personal image of the Chinese (just for the record I'm Vietnamese, completely different) is diaspora. You can find Chinese people today living in Chinatowns and among the main population in the Carribean, North and South America, Europe and South Asia. It's amazing how spread out they are. Some interesting trivia, Arthur Chung was the first ethnic Chinese to be a president/prime minister of a non-Asian country (Guyana).</p>
Yes^, it isn't about race, it's about the lack of self-confidence which usually is a big turn-off for all girls. However, lack of self-confidence is widespread among chinese-american males (I can't say for other asians, but most likely I think it applies). In chinese culture, modesty is emphasized and as someone mentioned, chinese are highly critical (esp. when it comes to self). Both of these are meant to better the person (correcting one's bad habits/not being arrogant/showing bad habits of others so that one can avoid them), however, instead they have tended to exacerbate insecurities. My parents, for example, always tell me to "stand up straight, smile more often, act intelligently, etc, etc..." Therefore, many of us develop insecurities which ultimately chip away at our self-confidence. If that issue is solved, most likely the prospects of male chinese-americans will be good
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I couldn't have put it better myself.</p>
<p>I'm in Taiwan right now, and if I had to characterize pop culture in one word, it'd be "kawaii."</p>
<p>LOTS of red (someone already mentioned it once above)
incense and bowing/praying to the Chinese gods and goddesses
skinny pale skin girls with straight black hair</p>
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<p>I'm sure there are some self-haters, but honestly, take an honest account of most of the Chinese guys you know: would you honestly say they are ideal dating material? A lot of them do not go out on weekends, are averse to parties with alcohol/marijuana/smoking, are intimidated by non-all-Azn gatherings, and are too fond of their Xbox's. </p>
<p>The cool Asian guys I know, meaning that they are socially confident and do not enclose themselves to one of those Azn cliques, do just fine. The Asian girls after them better watch out for competition from all 7 continents.</p>
<p>lol...interesting replies to "4. girls dating white guys." </p>
<p>"Hmm... is there also anything characterising chinese modern music, daily life culture, videogames, etc.?
(e.g. Japan = j-pop/rock, anime, manga, rpgs, final fantasy, old japanese mythologies, etc. anything similar that is popular in China?)"
For chinese modern music: I think there's a type of music called Cantopop. That's mainly characteristic of Hong Kong.</p>
<p>You have to wonder how many of these complainers actually got rejected due to their ethnicity, and how many of them are just people who spend too much time listening to the horror stories of anonymous losers on the great loserdom known as the internet. Some Asian guys have this incredibly annoying tendency to believe that all their woes would be fixed if they were born white. Well guess what? It only takes so many highlight reels of LeBron and Kobe dunking on the few white players in the NBA and Heidi Klums marrying Seals for white guys to feel like the black man's b*tch. But guess what? They're resilient and upbeat, unlike the mass hordes of Asian guys who gather on the internet to spew hatred, resentment, etc.</p>
<p>Chinese people can be tactless by Western standards... no hesitation in pointing out other peoples' (and our own) faults for everyone within earshot to hear... "you gained weight!" "oh, those grades are just ok". It's not considered impolite to say that kind of stuff, though. (I can't speak for the entire continent here, because the cultures of each country are REALLY different.)</p>
<p>...and I've never actually known many un-self confident Asian guys. I guess they're out there, though.</p>
<p>But all negative stereotype aside, Asians can be really hardworking.</p>
<p>My first use of Mandarin today in Milan's Chinatown:</p>
<p>I went to a shop selling videos, CDs and magazines, greeted "Niiha!", which I just learned on my first mandarin teaching website, and asked in Italian whether they had any children's books with picture-vocabulary in mandarin.
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After using all my communication skills and after she looked even in the cellar, I thought we found what I was looking for, bought it, said "sci</p>
<p>I know this is the most stupid question I'm ever going to ask in my life, it's like going against one of my values, but my curiosity is slightly provoked.</p>
<p>Is it possible that many Chinese people (especially emigrated one's) are a bit prejudice-minded and discriminatory against other Asians (South Asian, West Asian, etc.)?</p>
<p>"Is it possible that many Chinese people (especially emigrated one's) are a bit prejudice-minded and discriminatory against other Asians (South Asian, West Asian, etc.)?"</p>
<p>Judgemental of people from different provencecs, cities, countries, ethnic groups, generation....</p>
<p>Chinese people are also thought to be math geeks, for some strange reason...</p>
<p>Chopsticks, pandas, chinese instruments, chinese characters, Mao Ze-dong, Emperors, bamboo, stingyness, obsessed, critical, not very enthuthiastic, 'most impolite people', acupuncture, noodles, rice, etc....</p>
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<p>From my experience, while Asians tend to complain about facing prejudice in foreign lands, they're more than willing to reciprocate the same kind of discrimination back in their homelands. Whites, blacks, and even other Asians (like Filipinos) will probably get gawks, stares, and get called names even in metro areas like Seoul, South Korea. Of course, Asian who have bought into the concept of liberal-mindedness will be vastly different.</p>