<p>Shawna23:
Thank you. What do u think I can do?</p>
<p>naueth:
(I know I am arguing with you when you are right but I am trying to get you understand my feeling) Well, better be safe than sorry.</p>
<p>I dunno, if your school requires that you get his signature or something then I guess you’ll have to wait. Or you can try messaging him and talking to him for yourself.</p>
<p>Shawna23:
All residence halls are full, He/I have to have somewhere to swap to. I don’t know anyone that would be able to swap his roommate with me or vice versa. Do you think it would work if I make a complaint?</p>
<p>It might work if you had a valid complaint/concern. Just because someone is from a lower income bracket doesn’t mean thy smoke weed and all that… You should live with him. It will open your eyes and make you realize that 1. Not all low income people are “ghetto” and 2. You’re extremely blessed.</p>
<p>I call ■■■■■. Or not that bright. Or both.</p>
<p>Meet him before you judge him. If you’re mother is helping you move in as well, then she can meet him as well before she judges. It’ll be good experience for both of you.</p>
<p>Do not make a complaint if you have nothing to complain about (and certainly don’t make up something).</p>
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<p>If you live with him and he does these things, then you have a valid reason to request a new roommate. If you live with him and he doesn’t do any of these things, then perhaps you will learn something about judging someone before you meet them. Either way, you should meet him before you try to get out of living with him.</p>
<p>One of the things about college is that you meet a lot of different people who did not grow up in the same way that you did. You learn to make friends in all different income brackets, with different appearances, or with different cultures. Maybe you learn something about judging people about their appearances, but maybe you don’t. Stop trying to get out of it. Not only does it make you sound VERY discriminatory, but I don’t think the housing department would approve your request.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t go that far. Either way, you’ll live, hon.</p>
<p>“Ghetto” aside and we all are very aware of this type of dress (all races can appear ghetto). You will be able to switch roommates a few weeks after arriving. However, do not decide whether you will like or dislike a person based on his profile. My son had two roommates this past year. One was terrific (he did not believe he would care for him) and the other masturbated constantly, stayed up singing until 3 a.m., and slept during the day “snoring” when he would try to study.</p>
<p>I will see. As y’all said he might not be too bad.</p>
<p>Res life isn’t going switch you now whether you or your mom contacts them (heaven forbid). Give this guy a decent chance. Be friendly and see how it goes. Who knows, maybe he is saying to his friends, “Look at this guy’s FB, he is such a frat boy type, ugh” (no idea if you are, but you get the idea). He might be making assumptions about you that aren’t true, too. Oh, and don’t forget – some people try to make their FB page look like they are something they really aren’t – trying on a persona that isn’t what they are actually like because they think it is cool or something. So he might not even really be like what you see there.</p>
<p>At most colleges you have a chance to switch at winter break because rooms open up when students go abroad (usually more students go for spring than in the fall, so net there are some openings).</p>
<p>Try to keep your mom out of this – this is something you are supposed to deal with as an adult, and your roommate, RA, and the housing department won’t look favorably on it if she tries to step in somehow.</p>
<p>Seriously? MEET HIM BEFORE COMING TO CONCLUSIONS ABOUT HIM. Do you actually think that the school will listen to your complaint and take it seriously if you tell them, “oh I don’t have any proof of him being a disturbance to me, I just kinda assumed things from his Facebook page.”</p>
<p>I mean, I get why you and your mom are worried (I can imagine being in your shoes), but not everything in life will be how you want it to be. You don’t always get your dream roommate who’s exactly like you and can become your best friend for life. But you’re an adult now, be a bit more mature about this.</p>
<p>Ummmm…remember he got in to this college, just like you did. And if he doesn’t put school as his top priority, he won’t be there for long.</p>
<p>Also, remember a lot of what you see on Facebook is a facade…people can be a lot different in person.</p>
<p>Give the situation a chance. It’s not like you are in dire physical danger sharing a room with him. You may not become BFFs but there will be a lot of other students on your floor and on campus for you to become friends with.</p>
<p>“Takes weeds”</p>
<p>Lol…</p>
<p>I am sorry but this is slightly ridiculous.</p>
<p>First, I can tell that you are a nice person and don’t mean to be rude and everything but…
I can tell that your family has some very negative preconceived notions about people and society in general. This method of thinking that you have basically been taught by your family will not benefit you in the future.</p>
<p>There is no reason why your mom should move closer to you just because they think that your roommate is poor and going to possibly cause problems.</p>
<p>First, your mom should recognize that you are an adult and you are able to handle your own problems.</p>
<p>Second, in a dorm situation, your mom has NO right to be there unless you personally escort her to your room. She will have no access and under FERPA will not be able to make any decisions regarding your life while you are at school because you are old enough to make your own decisions.</p>
<p>Getting to the roommate part, you shouldn’t judge whether or not you will be safe on this person’s Facebook. Granted, everyone judges people on their social sites but you should never let it get to a place where you refuse to even give the person a try.
For all you know, this person can be the polar opposite of what you think he will be. The least you can do is meet him first, you at least owe him that.</p>
<p>So my suggestion is to tell your mom to stay in your place, move in as planned, and if it really isn’t working out, request to be moved. </p>
<p>You will never get a perfect roommate, that’s the beauty of moving to college and learning important life skills like tolerance and compromise.</p>
<p>Good luck.</p>
<p>Be nice and respectful, you don’t have to be friends. You need to learn to deal with different people in life. You never know who might be the one to introduce you to someone that may give you your dream job or may be the one hiring you in a couple of years. Just communicate with your roommate that you would prefer he doesn’t do illegal stuff in the dorm. If he is how you describe him then most likely he won’t even be in the dorm that often since he’ll be out partying and smoking. No one is dumb enough to smoke in a dorm room. Study has shown that individuals with high risk behavior are more likely to be successful in life. Stop being such a primma donna.</p>
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<p>You’re kidding, right?</p>
<p>Why are you complaining? If your roommate is that serious about “taking weeds” it sounds like he deeply cares about beautifying the campus.</p>
<p>Does he look like Jesse Pinkman from Breaking Bad?
Is that what you mean?</p>
<p>Hey, I am fine now! I am going to live with him!</p>