Hey everyone. I’m kind of in a dilemma right now. There’s this group at our school (and in California) that is similar to NHS (based off academic performance and community service for membership) and I put on my college apps that I would receive recognition for being a member of it for at least 4 semesters. The advisor who runs the program at my high school sent out an email saying that we are required to attend this banquet they are hosting in order to claim our recognition and cord for graduation and that there is no other way to get it. However, the banquet conflicts with my schedule, as I will be at Bulldog Days during the day that the banquet is being held.
I will go in and talk to the advisor, but I don’t think she will budge. What do I do? This won’t affect my college applications will it? I don’t want colleges to get the idea that I lied to them on the app, but I am definitely eligible (I’ve actually been a member for 7 semesters). To me, it seems unreasonable that attendance of the event is mandatory to getting the recognition. I’ve paid money for the membership, and have donated many items/done service for the purpose of getting this honor.
This is worth zero worry, not for a single second. So you don’t get the cord, that doesn’t change anything else and those cords end up in box a week later. Relax. No college has time or cares to check on such trivial matters. You did your time, you are fine.
I realize that this situation isn’t worth very much worry regarding the recognition, mostly just feel a little cheated about paying membership dues and getting nowhere.
I just think putting it on the college app is the recognition that means them most, so they can’t take that away from you. It does seem they would just give you the cord in homeroom or something, just to have for graduation, what if someone was sick and has to miss it? But it seems they have rules they want to enforce…
Petty bureaucrats are everywhere… but ask politely, say you will be at an accepted student visit at a college. If you don’t get it, don’t sweat it – you do not need to notify colleges.
I agree. It is a non-issue. If you got into Yale you can be sure it is not at all tied into your ability to attend a banquet. IMO, the advisor should be thrilled that you got into Yale and will attend Bulldog Day – if no accommodation can be made, that his his/her issue not yours.
The advisor should understand and give you your due. It’s not going to make or break you at Yale ( or any school for that matter) because you have already been accepted but it’s still an achievement that should go on your college app. The advisor should be excited for you about Yale.
If that doesn’t work, talk to your GC. In any case, tell them that you really wanted to attend the banquet, but have college admittance activities that you did not schedule on that day.
Everything was resolved…just got some bad information from the President of that organization (who was a student). The advisor understood, and just made it known that I will still get recognition, but that I can’t apply for the scholarship they are offering. All is well.
Why can’t you apply for the scholarship? You paid your membership dues and did what you needed to do to get the honor. You also should be able to apply for the scholarship.
HS will be ancient history in a few short weeks. Do let the principal know about conflicts for future students. I recall that my son missed out on several “required” events due to conflicts. Some of the best and brightest were involved in more than one activity. Music parents sponsored event vs sports event. NHS event vs others… Always excused. In fact concerts et al were often schedule checked- it doesn’t help to have the top chairs in a music group competing in a varsity sport the same night…