<p>Neato: you took the words right out of my mouth!</p>
<p>@cameo43 and @neatoburrito - Don’t think for a second that thought hasn’t crossed my mind when I read about your lovely girls! I showed your comments to K2 this morning and at first he gave me this look and said, Mother! And then he asked, Do they row? I said, This isn’t a dating service, K2! (Not yet anyway 
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<p>@SevenDad- In this day and age it’s been a battle upstream. We’re still working on K1’s signature move: The half lift bow off the chair. Drives my husband nuts. </p>
<p>@stargirl3- I like your mom… a lot!!</p>
<p>@PhotographerMom - HA! The closest she would get to rowing would be sitting in a rowboat playing the ukulele and singing while he rows.</p>
<p>@PhotographerMom: The “half-lift” is a masterstroke…to be complemented by the gracious acknowledgement/wave-off by the lady getting out of her chair!</p>
<p>I love the old-school manner, too, but CK says that opening doors and PERHAPS holding out chairs is OK, but standing up until a girl is seated (at school) would only be met by a barrage of how “this is precisely the type of sexist repression that has made women second-class citizens forever…” from the angry woman he stood up for. He doesn’t know a single boy who would stand for the barrage of “feminist crap” that would steamroll his way should he do something so overt. My face is still frozen in a tragedy mask.</p>
<p>ChoatieMom: tell CK he can use that barrage to weed out girls/women who have no manners. It will narrow down the field considerably. </p>
<p>@neatoburrito - I think K2 would be completely onboard but unfortunately… this is how he would imagine it: </p>
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<p>Completely serious question…standing when someone approaches is gender-specific? This is something I have always experienced as done for anyone…(in our lifetime, not historically). </p>
<p>Men stand for men, too- but mostly to greet and shake hands. When I was in BS, girls and boys stood when an adult entered the room. Back then, we called faculty members Masters. </p>
<p>I remember always standing up when a parent and child entered a classroom on tour, and I was pleasantly surprised to see this tradition continue at a couple of schools when we were touring.</p>
<p>LondonKid’s school students stand when a teacher enters and sits only when asked to.</p>
<p>My son (and husband) will stand when we are out at a restaurant or a social event. Neither do it at home. My son reports that he judges the crowd before standing when he is out without us, he says he has been chided by both guys and girls for doing so. Personally, I like it and my daughter does as well. It does seem that it is becoming more and more uncommon.</p>
<p>I’m still working on getting my son (and daughter) to hold the door (not just for me, for anyone). I am in awe of those of you who have gone further. :-)</p>
<p>I’ve been a door holder since it was my classroom job in kindergarten!</p>
<p>LondonKid’s school students stand when a teacher enters and sit only when asked to.</p>
<p>My 5 yr old son was walking ahead of me a few months ago…just before exiting the building…he stopped at the door and waived me through and said…“After you mommy!” I couldn’t stop laughing inside but I told him…thank you sweetie! According to the teacher he does this at school and also welcomes her back from her lunch break with “Welcome Back Michelle…I hope your lunch was good!”. He’s a charmer…watch out ladies! :x </p>
<p>I think you and his dad must have had something to do with this, NYCMom… If only more young men were raised this way! </p>
<p>My first interview was at Hotchkiss, and I had 2 Caucasian girls tour me. They were cordial enough, and were tolerant of my mother’s Singaporean accent- they opened doors and told us extensively of their school- however, they were rather cold and I did not feel very welcome at Hotchkiss. That’s too bad, since I loved what I saw of their campus.</p>
<p>At Choate, I had a boy tour me, which was interesting, because most BSes like to keep tour guides and applicants gender-coordinated. My mom didn’t accompany us because her shoes were killing her, so we went alone. He kept on rushing me- apparently he was late to class the last time he did a tour- and yet I believed he was a great tour guide. His affability was contagious, and he really ameliorated my impression of Choate. There was an awkward moment when he decided to bring me to a 3rd Form girls’ dorm (I’m a girl, after all). He used his keycard to get in, and a group of girls were sitting on the couch facing the door. They just stared at us when we stepped in. We didn’t tour the dorms at all due to the awkwardness of the situation, but he laughed it off with a “They’re weird. Don’t worry about them.” My interviewer at Choate and I engaged in a lively discussion about Chinese culture, and she seemed really impressed with my artistic endeavors.</p>
<p>My overall experience at Deerfield was nothing less of horrible. Deerfield’s location seemed more rural than the other schools I had toured, and the dorms looked dank. That really turned me off, and my perception of Deerfield was scarred from my experience. I had 3 tour guides who I really loved, but the interviewer was cold and unimpressed. Every answer I gave was inadequate. I knew right then and there that Deerfield wasn’t the right school for me.</p>
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Not sure why it’s relevant that these girls were Caucasian, lah…</p>
<p>@GMTplus7 hahaa. It wasn’t very relevant:) and was that “lah” intentional? Perhaps a reference to my Singaporean heritage?</p>
<p>My tour guide from Choate wasn’t the greatest. She took us off the course she was supposed to follow to show us the athletic center (I play volleyball) which was really nice but then I didn’t get to see a lot of the academic buildings (I don’t think I was supposed to see them all anyway - big campus). She wasn’t the greatest at answering questions. That and it was a rainy day.</p>
<p>I got a second tour by a friend. I was taken all over the place to literally every building. I asked more honest questions and got honest answers. I was even taken into town. It was still a nasty day to be on campus, but a great second tour.</p>
<p>Side note: anyone ever watched the Disney movie College Road Trip? Goofy movie, but the story line is similar to my own Boarding School Road Trip and there’s scenes in the movie from Choate. I showed my mom the movie (trying to get her on board with Choate) and she’s like “that’s a pretty campus.” I was like “you’re so right. Mom guess what? That’s Choate.” She was like whoa. I think she was pretty impressed.</p>