<p>Why do some people think it is important to have sex with a lot of people before they get married? Does it matter? :/</p>
<p>^ No it doesn’t matter. If you want to have sex with lots of people before you marry, do it. If you don’t, then don’t. </p>
<p>It’s that simple IMO. </p>
<p>I don’t recommend getting married as a virgin though. If you and your partner are sexually incompatible, it’s more than likely going to be a rough marriage.</p>
<p>I’m not sure if I want to get married, but probably not. If I do, definitely not until I’m in my 30s. I want time to experience life and live on my schedule before being “attached” to someone. Not sure yet about kids either. Then again, my top college choice is West Point and I eventually want to work for the FBI, so that might factor in. Neither lifestyle is ideal for a family and I want to work, not be a stay-at-home mom! If I do get married, definitely a manly man, I couldn’t deal with a metro, and preferably someone in my line of work.</p>
<p>Definitely not time anything soon. </p>
<p>I made up my mind a long time ago that I didn’t need marriage to validate anything or add “meaning” to my relationship. All that matters (for me, at least) is we’re in a happy and healthy relationship.</p>
<p>My boyfriend feels a little differently about it and I could see why he feels that way (especially with everything that he’s been through). If he chooses to propose tomorrow, I’d totally say yes.</p>
<p>Ok let me get this misconception out of the way. </p>
<p>Just because you get married, DOES NOT MEAN that you are giving up your life. </p>
<p>I am engaged and I have spent months outside of the country. I am planning to go to Greece in a few years, too. I have done every damn thing I would have done without having a significant other. </p>
<p>My fiance supports me 100%. I told him I wanted to move to the east coast to work and he said “I’ll start packing as soon as you say the word.” </p>
<p>My aunt and uncle still travel around the world- with 4 kids in tow. </p>
<p>I studied abroad down in Costa Rica for two months this summer. My professor brought along his wife and their 2 year old son. Trust me, they are not held down at all. They still go everywhere they want and do everything they please. </p>
<p>I have made it clear that I intend to have a career and my fiance was fine with staying home with the kids. </p>
<p>Sorry but it’s very annoying to assume that getting a spouse will just “get in the way”. If you feel that way about your significant other than that is NOT the life partner for you. </p>
<p>/rant</p>
<p>^ I agree</p>
<p>But, as for me. Mid-late 20’s, after college. Maybe have 2-3 kids (I want my child to have [a] sibling[s]) Plus, I want to at least finish college and be almost done getting the degrees I want.</p>
<p>Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that marriage is for everyone or everyone’s lifestyle. Hey if you don’t wanna get married, live and let live. I could care less. However, when I see high schooler after high schooler say that they don’t want to get married because they want to “live their lives” then I am concerned that they might be giving up opportunities to have a partner right along there with you. I also think they get tunnel vision and should simply expand their minds rather than saying “no marriage until I’m done with my exciting life RAWRRR”</p>
<p>Late 20’s. 2-3 kids</p>
<p>Mid 20s. Right around grad school.</p>
<p>Or wait until after I get my PhD.</p>
<p>I don’t think marriage should bind your from all your life opportunities. Maybe having children, yes (esp when the child is still an infant), but I want to travel even if I marry.</p>
<p>^ People have been traveling with children since the beginning of time. We put our babies in too big of a bubble. Let the kid live a little.</p>
<p>I agree, traveling to extreme climates probably isn’t the best idea. But having children should not hinder your travel plans IMHO.</p>
<p>^ I don’t think I should’ve said ‘travel’ it’s really the fact that you’ll travel with your child’s benefit and comfort in mind.</p>
<p>^ Personally, I think it’s beneficial to expose kids to all types of people, places, things, etc. A little bit of un-comfort isn’t a bad thing. This is just my opinion.</p>
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Hahahaha, image of partying babies.</p>
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Agreed.</p>
<p>I’m quite surprised by the amount of people desiring to get married so young - like in college or even earlier! I’m 17 now, and I could never even begin to imagine myself getting married in a year. Perhaps it’s because I’m not in a relationship now. But I think it should take a long while (and more maturity) before deciding that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. But perhaps it’s just me, because I know that I’m the type of person who falls hard and falls fast, so I would need to take a lot of time to figure out if the feelings are real and lasting or just a spur of the moment kind of thing.</p>
<p>I have to agree with romanigypsyeyes though. I would not want to wait until after all of the “excitement” in my life passed to settle down. I don’t want marriage to be the end of my life. I want to be able to experience all the excitement with someone by my side, not all alone. So ideally, I would meet someone in college and be with them for a few years before I get married at around 25-28. As for kids…I can’t stand them much now. I always think other people’s kids are cute and all…But they sort of begin to annoy me if I spend too much time with them. Hopefully this view will change, as I would like to be able to have 2 kids, a boy and a girl (I’m the type of person who likes to try out all the options xD). And I wouldn’t want to have the first kid after 30, but at the same time I’m not sure I’d be ready before it, regarding my career and everything else.</p>
<p>I agree with you in some ways romanigypseyeyes, but I still like the idea of just moving around completely on my own and without having to inform or answer to anyone invigorating. I guess I am just extremely independent and don’t want to emotional burden of either travelling with someone or feeling guilty because I keep leaving them alone for long periods of time. I know that this may not be my significant other’s point of view, but I would feel guilty or responsible nonetheless. I also believe my desire to be in the military and FBI are fueling my decision as neither are family- or kid-friendly atmospheres. I have friends with parents in the military and I don’t want to put my own kids through all the stress and worry that these kids have been through. Similar with the FBI - I wouldn’t be around much and, as I am someone who commits herself completely to everything she does, I can see myself being consumed by my job leaving little time and support for my family.</p>
<p>I live in an area where a lot of girls get married around 18, and I don’t think I could quite handle that.</p>
<p>I’d prefer to wait until later twenties when the massive amount of hormones are steadying out and I’ll actually know who my husband with be to some extent in a year. I got in an extremely good friendship a year ago, with a guy. We ended up being more than friends and I can still read his emotions by the slightest face change, but I’m not sure at all who he is anymore. He’s not the young man I fell for, and he’s not the best friend I shared so much time with last year. I don’t want to do that in a marriage. I want to know for sure who the one I’m marrying is, and that I can put up with their crap and drama, forever. Not just for a few years until we tire of each other, but with so serious commitment.</p>
<p>@FBItomboy- I’m not saying that you have to get married. All I’m saying is, don’t be so narrow minded that if the opportunity for love arises that you push it away because you don’t want to be “burdened down”. I know a few people who pushed away significant others because they didn’t want the burden so young- very few of them don’t regret it now.</p>
<p>I’m already married ;).</p>
<p>Hmm…whenever I’ve been destined to get married. If can choose, it would optimally be around 21-24 :D</p>