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<p>Marriage can be a burden sometimes. A lot of the time for some.</p>
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<p>If marriage is a burden then you have not found the right partner or you are not meant to get married. Simple as that. :rolleyes:</p>
<p>never. tied down to an annoying baby and a lazy husband for life?
Forget marriage. No human being should ever do that to themselves. Men complain that marriage is awful, but the mom has to clean , wash dishes , while holding a job and carrying a kicking baby.</p>
<p>Men are like condoms, you use them… and then throw them away.</p>
<p>ergo, I’ll probably be married by about 30. cannot escape the will of life…</p>
<p>evidently my mom doesn’t want me to get married until i’m 27 to give me time to establish myself financially and such, which sounds reasonable.
hope to land myself a hot, faithful, caring, white girl who is doing well in terms of income
2 kids- max (hopefully)</p>
<p>can’t really think too far ahead cause you never know</p>
<p>^^ As a male, I take offense to that statement.</p>
<p>^^^you have a really bleak view of marriage and motherhood… either you’ll want it later and see it differently, or you’re just really not meant to get married. either way, don’t succumb to “the will of life” and get married if you still feel that way, you’d end up making a lot of people miserable</p>
<p>also, babies aren’t annoying. my baby brother is adorable and i could play with him for hours.</p>
<p>@nil desperandum</p>
<p>who says the husband is lazy? i’m a guy (i’m only 17) but i wash dishes and do work around the house, mow the lawn, and such. i’m not idiot and i’m damn competent</p>
<p>Marriage is outdated. From what I’ve read (admitting that I could be completely wrong), it was started back when women were considered property and marriage only signifies the passing of a woman from one family to another. It also keeps a family together, in the sense that the children would know who their parents are. It is unnatural as humans are not meant to be monogamous.</p>
<p>But I love the idea of staying in love and sharing your life with one person for as long as you live! ^_^</p>
<p>while that might have been the old reason for marriage [though i believe it is far more complex than that, and that your statement is fundamentally wrong, but whatever], nowadays it’s just more of a concrete, publicly visible symbol of love. usually. it’s definitely not outdated, in any case.</p>
<p>I can’t lie, I’m looking forward to getting married. What’s the point of traveling the world if you have no one to share it with? I mean really, what’s the point of any success or happy experience if it’s all alone?</p>
<p>@Izzy</p>
<p>Sure, but IMO, what’s the point if many marriages don’t work out? To me, telling me a couple is married doesn’t really mean that much. (but of course, that’s just me)</p>
<p>@LaTina- </p>
<p>Yes, that is originally what marriage was for in the European tradition. </p>
<p>However, now marriage comes with a whole range of benefits- tax benefits, health care benefits, etc. </p>
<p>I really don’t see marriage as a big deal either. My fiance and I have already made a commitment to one another. We’re having a hand-binding ceremony and filing to be legally married once I graduate college, but it’s not going to change us at all. </p>
<p>@nil- </p>
<p>You have a very bleak view of life. Don’t want kids? Don’t have them. Don’t want to get married? Don’t.
But don’t drag down the entire male population to your jaded view of them. It’s not fair and it’s false.</p>
<p>"According to the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan, women spent an average of 27 hours a week on housework in 2002, while men spent 16 hours (which at least represents an improvement over the 16 seconds or so a lot of them spent a generation ago). Even today, married men perform little more than a third of household labor, whether or not their wives are in the paid labor force. And women spend more than twice as much time as men do on child care. "</p>
<p>i am allowed to express my own opinion regarding this. It is doubtless that others may come up with some shining example of a man who, in reality, does help with housework and most chores. But from my personal experience, my mother is still cooking at 2 am in the morning when my father finally wants dinner. In my experience, my mom does the laundry and drives us kids around.Romani, Its not a very bleak view of life, when i say that i’ll probably be married because of the will of life. The strongest urge is for all humans is to reproduce, to become evolutionarily successful. Furthermore, while I don’t your comment that I have a very bleak view of life, I agree that is the truth;I do take offense that my opinion will “drag down the entire male population.” why would it? I am not expressing my view to the whole male populace. i am in no position of power to enforce “forced segregation” or any other cruel and draconian measures against men. In general, I treat males as politely as everyone else; however, I hold close to my beliefs that men most be courted at arms length and to barricade myself from any overt expressions of emotion or whatever.</p>
<p>as to my statement about leaving men like used rubbers, that was only hyperbole to amuse my self. After all, it has been a boring day on the internet.</p>
<p>Sorry, I had to reread that paragraph about six times to figure out what you were saying. </p>
<p>I’ll say it again- don’t get married if you don’t want to. No one forces you to. </p>
<p>I’m sorry that you grew up in a house where your mum did the majority of the work and that has shaped your view of what a marriage is/should be like. I am truly sorry (not being sarcastic).</p>
<p>I know, but it’s not like people marry only for the benefits (or maybe some do, I wouldn’t know). I’m just saying, marriage isn’t needed to prove your love to another person or to keep a family together anymore. </p>
<p>I’d like to get married though, for the convention.</p>
<p>^ I am not disagreeing with you- marriage isn’t needed to prove your love to someone. I agree with that completely. The real purpose of a legal marriage now is for the benefits. Don’t forget that you can’t do things like visit your loved one when they are dying if you are not legally family.</p>
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<p>No, all marriages involve compromises. And problems/arguements will inevitably occur. Not that I am against marriage or anything lol. I am just reasoning against your prior statement that marriage isn’t binding</p>
<p>^ There is a HUGE difference between compromises and burdens. If a spouse is a burden to you, then that is not who you are meant to be with for your life.</p>
<p>After med school. Maybe when I’m around 27-28?</p>
<p>Wow at all the anti-marriage people.</p>