<p>It's not personal. It's business.</p>
<p>The immortal words of the Godfather. I know that being waitlisted (or rejected) from a college can be disappointing and dispiriting, but you should try not to take it personally. Colleges cannot accept everyone who is "qualified" as good schools have far more qualified applicants than they have slots for. </p>
<p>They have to make very hard decisions and have to base those decisions on many things beyond the easily quantifiable (GPA, SATs, activities). Yes, they have to make some determination of level of interest and most give that some weight in the decision, and some more than others (apparently, this is the case at Bucknell - Penn is another). They have to look at what majors they are needing to add to or slow down, or what particular skills or talents they need (do they need jazz saxophone players who will major in economics and are from Ohio? or do they need Hispanic females from the East Coast who will major in engineering?) </p>
<p>They will look at many odd little statistics/characteristics that have historically told them that the applicant is more likely or less likely to accept the admission offer or that the applicant will be more likely or less likely to fit in/find a niche at that school and, therefore, are more likely to thrive and contribute and graduate or more likely to be unhappy, withdrawn, and flunk out/drop out/transfer out (or worse, suffer for four years and leave unhappy, wishing they had been somewhere else). </p>
<p>They also have found, as have just about all other colleges, that a balance of skills, talents, aptitudes, passions, etc. infuses the college community with variety, diversity, and vivacity. They cannot simply accept all superstars. In sports, teams with all superstars rarely do well as egos and personalities clash. Those with a good mix of a superstar or two, lots of very good players, some role players, some utility players, and some aging but wily veterans are the teams that tend to enjoy success. (Can you tell I'm a baseball fan?) A college community is the same way, so some with high quantifiables are waitlisted or rejected on the basis of some of those other factors. </p>
<p>Finally, the people working in admissions are experienced professionals who can discern all of the above and are good at finding the applicants who are a good fit for their school. And, sometimes, it's just an unfortunate series of events - too many from your HS or zip code applied or some other unknown (to you) thing happened (budget cuts?).<br>
Although my own college experience was in the dark ages (the '70s!), I've been through it with my son three years ago (now a junior at William & Mary) and am in it now with my daughter (7 acceptances so far, including Bucknell engineering and waiting for the last two - then it is decision time). Between the two of them, we've toured some 35 or so colleges and talked with a lot of admissions people - they all stress that waitlisting means that they do find you qualified and they believe you would do well at their school and would be an asset to their community but that they just had to draw the line somewhere and, sadly and regretfully, you ended up on the less desirable side of it. On the other hand, take heart - my wife was rejected twice from the college we both graduated from (W&M), then waitlisted, and only got off the waitlist a week or so before classes started. She enrolled, we met, we graduated, we got married, we have two great kids, and she makes about four times the money I make (I'm a teacher and she is really good at getting things done and getting other people to get things done so she has great value to her company). Things work out. And if you don't get off the waitlist, then you have the opportunity to go to another great school and have the great experiences that school can offer. What was the old country song? Be thankful for unanswered prayers - it often works out better in the end.</p>
<p>There is a school out there that will find you are an offer it can't refuse.</p>