<p>I have a boyfriend and we have the same top choices for college and we talked about it and if we get into the same college that we both like were definitely going to stay together</p>
<p>oh and I see him every weekend even though we both play sports, have jobs, and take 5 (me) and 4 (him) AP classes. its not difficult to make time if you really want to</p>
<p>I wish “not enough time” were the issue.</p>
<p>I’ve had a boyfriend for about a year and a half. Long before we went out he was my best friend (and still is), so it works out. I definitely could not have a long term relationship with someone who didn’t understand my and my work habits and who wasn’t as ambitious as me. I think I just got lucky. He’s studying abroad now though :/. If it was anyone else I doubt I’d have time for a relationship or it just wouldn’t work out. Before him I went on dates but it was nothing serious.</p>
<p>I think we’ll last in college. He’s already in college actually and we’re making it work from different parts of the world right now.</p>
<p>I do have a boyfriend, but I’m not exactly the overachieving CCer type so I guess I may have more time/different priorities.</p>
<p>Don’t have a boyfriend. I admit sometimes I kinda want one, but he’d basically have to be perfect lol. I’m super busy and I’ve moved around so much I’ve never really got the chance to get that close with somebody. It’s probably a good thing, because a relationship is such a commitment and takes up a lot of time I can’t give right now anyway…I’m sure it’ll work out in college…right?</p>
<p>I think some of the people here who say they don’t want a gf/bf, blame it on the other people they know, or don’t have time are just in denial. I could be wrong, but that’s my guess.</p>
<p>I’d rather recognize that the real reason I’m single and fix it than lie to myself and never make any improvements.</p>
<p>Look out, guys, it’s Mr. Perceptive.</p>
<p>That’s Professor Perceptive actually.</p>
<p>And my post wasn’t really directed at you. Or anyone in particular actually. But I could understand how your situation would be hard to overcome, because I know how homophobic most high schoolers are.</p>
<p>Basically my whole thing is try to see what you can fix in yourself rather than making excuses. Unless you don’t want a relationship, then by all means, continue not having one if it makes you happy. But on the same token, don’t tell yourself you don’t want one just because you don’t have one.</p>
<p>The point of a relationship isn’t to change yourself so others will want to date you. It’s to wait for the right person to come along, someone who will want to date you just the way you are. </p>
<p>I think it’s good to try to change yourself for the better. But the self-improvement needs to be for you alone. It has to be so YOU can like you, not so other people can like you. And then if other people like you more because of this change well that’s a plus 
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<p>Change is only beneficial to you if the reason is right.</p>
<p>I’m socially capable and fairly attractive, so I’ve had a few boyfriends/guys pursuing me. When I was younger, I felt that if at least one boy didn’t have a crush on me per year, I was “losing my touch” and I’d obsess about it. Luckily I’ve gained some self-confidence since then.</p>
<p>My longest relationship was 2 years, but he was a year ahead of me and we broke up when he went to college. Then he went off the deep end and started threatening me (I created a thread about it when I got so desperate that I felt like turning to CC for help). Regardless, I’ve loved being single during my senior year – it’s been a while since I haven’t been committed, honestly…7th grade? To me, relationships are not as great as they seem to be, though I’ve never been “in love” so I can’t say that for sure. I’m also a self-proclaimed realist, so I don’t subscribe to the gushiness that you find in The Notebook and such. At least, not anymore. I think that my mindset kind of takes away from the fun of dating, but I can’t force myself to believe in that stuff.</p>
<p>@kuririn Of course, I don’t mean change yourself FOR someone. But for a lot of people (including me), the problem is not putting yourself out there enough. Once you accept that’s your problem, or whatever your problem is, you can fix it. Being too shy to put yourself out there isn’t really a personality trait, in my opinion. I mean it is, but it’s something you can change while still being “you.” In fact, you can be you more by being more confident, outgoing, etc. </p>
<p>I’m not saying dye your hair or dress differently or do whatever to attract someone. But do whatever you have to do to make yourself more confident, because that’s what it’s all about. For guys at least. It really isn’t that hard to find SOMEONE if you’re confident.</p>
<p>Sorry if I’m rambling here, just trying to make my point clear, since it’s pretty easy to take something the wrong way over the internet.</p>
<p>My plan was always to get rich, go to Pakistan, and offer the hottest girl I could find a green card.</p>
<p>I’m not allowed to date. ^.^</p>
<p>“I’d rather recognize that the real reason I’m single and fix it than lie to myself and never make any improvements.”</p>
<p>The real reason I’m single is I’m ugly as hell. I’ve always admitted that, and there’s not a lot I can do about it short of cosmetic surgery. Even with makeup and better clothes you can’t compete with the people who are good-looking without it (unless you’re rich).
I figure the worst thing that can happen if I never date anyone is I end up with no kids, and I don’t really want kids anyway.</p>
<p>I’ll marry you halcyon. But kids are pretty necessary.</p>
<p>My bf and I only started dating recently but we’ve known each other for years. Though I’ve always pushed off having a boyfriend because of school/extracurricular obligations, this guy knows me well enough to understand my situation, even at this point. But either way, it was also in part that I wasn’t allowed to date as well. No time and not being allowed to makes for a pretty solid combination.</p>
<p>I think High School people are not for me. Maybe college will be better. I dated back in Freshmen year and seriously, things didn’t turn out right.</p>
<p>I feel sorry for the people that say they have no time for a relationship. You can always make that excuse, but eventually you’re going to end up passing over your soul mate.</p>
<p>However, I have no problem with people that aren’t actively looking for a relationship because they have other obligations, though in high school, it seems like you could always make time.</p>
<p>I am so alone…</p>
<p>Money can be an issue too?</p>
<p>Heck, it costs money to be in a relationship.</p>