<p>Me too. I’m always thinking about how much I want a boyfriend because I’ve never even been on a date, let alone be physically or emotionally involved with a guy. ^^ Let’s stick it out together and wait it out for another year. College is supposed to be a time for new beginnings. We’ll find someone eventually! :)</p>
<p>Right, right, right.</p>
<p>@heather It’s cliche, but I guarantee someone finds you attractive or someone will. Looks are completely subjective. You have to think that people think you’re attractive though. If you go around thinking you’re ugly, you’ll probably push people away who are actually interested in you. </p>
<p>At least that’s what I’ve picked up. I’m far from a dating expert. About as far as you can get actually. But in theory it’s pretty simple, so I think I’m fairly accurate.</p>
<p>@Kongo I always wonder, if you don’t think you have time in HS, when do you think you’re going to have time? You can blame it on time and say you’ll wait until your schedule frees up, and it never does. Like I said, if you don’t want a relationship, more power to you. But I think it’s natural for people to want one.</p>
<p>@Philo I can’t tell how sarcastic that was supposed to be or not, haha. It’ll be okay. I guess we just have to be patient :/</p>
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<p>Let’s not forget we’re in high school here. Hardly the end all be all of dating. Or anything. Gotta stay positive and patient though.</p>
<p>Not patient as in waiting for something to happen though. Patient as in not being afraid of failure/rejection, and not getting stressed out over one person.</p>
<p>Easier said than done though</p>
<p>haha, Philo, you’re such a jokester XD I don’t get written language very well</p>
<p>I’m not sure where the emptiness comes from. Is it my lack of social connections? My inability to find a vision and drive for a passionate future? Some part of me that will always be there, injecting dysthemia into my existence?</p>
<p>I’ll feel happy tomorrow, but is happiness without reason truly happiness? Or just complacency?</p>
<p>Meh, rather be complacent than unhappy. Happiness is more of a mindset rather than a product of you’re situation though. You’ll find people with everything going for them who are still unhappy.</p>
<p>I’m a fairly good looking guy, but I live in small town Texas and am too scared/shy to make any moves. I sort of (weirdly) expect the girl to make the move, which is why I’m single. I wish I had a girlfriend, sometimes I dream of holding somebody in my arms and just feeling manly. Now I am just left to wonder whether this dream will ever be realized.</p>
<p>I feel the same way as you right now, Philo. I feel like no matter how many friends I have, I don’t have anyone around me to truly understand what I feel or talk to about my problems. On top of that, I only know one gay person in my life, and he goes to my church, while I don’t know anyone gay at school. And I have no idea what I want to do with my life right now, and I feel like I’ve completely wasted my middle school and high school years doing school instead of pursuing what I love.</p>
<p>All of that combined makes for a pretty miserable life, but we have to make conscious efforts and decisions on our part to change everything that we can so that we can move forward and be happy. You’re super smart, and I know that wherever you go, it’ll be the place where your life can make a complete 180. And you’ll find that special one-of-a-kind guy that was made just for you.</p>
<p>Honestly, my deepest fear, a fear even deeper than that of not being accepted to a college or university is being alone.</p>
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<p>But what’s the point of happiness? What’s the point of every feelgood? What’s the point of</p>
<p>@philo Putting aside the b/gf conversation, I think happiness comes from personally accepting and loving yourself, not from external stimulus. Sure, a gf (or bf in your case) might make you happy in one sense, but would it cure your emptiness? Not to be rude or anything, but I think you’re being somewhat idealistic in connecting a relationship to a happier state of mind. Although others can help your self-confidence, the real change comes from within. And the point of being happy is allow yourself to enjoy your life. You don’t want to turn 90 and moan about your wasted youth.</p>
<p>@halcyon If someone cares more about looks than for you as a person, then they aren’t right for you anyways.</p>
<p>I’m not in a relationship, nor have I been in one before. My sexuality is quite ambiguous, even to myself (Either bisexual or gay, meh). Buuuut I’m more-or-less in the market to find myself a nice man ;D Welp, unfortunately for me my love interests are far different popularity caliber than me, so back to becoming a hopeless romantic. </p>
<p>And back to my homework, of course. <em>sigh</em></p>
<p>I’ve been dating my boyfriend since September. Not my first bf though. Actually my 3rd. Almost 18 though(:</p>
<p>And the good mood returns. Haha. ^_^</p>
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<p>Pretty sure that most of us are empty; I’m just aware of it. Which is cool.</p>
<p>There’s actually a lot of science on happiness, and one finding (besides that you’re wrong and your idea of happiness is somewhat oversimplistic) clear humans are social animals. They need connections with others in order to thrive. This is evinced by realtime and long-term correlqtional studies of happiness and social activity. Accepting and loving oneself is part of the equation, but hardly the sum total. A good case can be asserted that suggests the importance of self-esteem for building social connections, but that’s another story.</p>
<p>Loneliness in the absence of social connections is normal, part of being human, not a sign that one somehow have some hang-ups about myself. By suggesting otherwise, you stigmatize the emotion and stunt emotional expression as it occurs around you. (Though I’m pretty sure most of here have hang-ups with ourselves.)</p>
<p>Would being in a relationship give you passion for life? Maybe it would for you. It depends on the person. And also, you’re right that humans are naturally social, but some people would rather their closest connection be simply with themselves. It really just depends- I didn’t mean to overgeneralize.</p>
<p>Very, very few people sincerely want to spend their lives alone. >.></p>
<p>It’s all of my relationships on the fritz right now, but that’s for college application essays. Not this thread. Ta-ta or whatever.</p>