<p>Why don’t we just agree that we should find whatever makes us happy, whether that mean being in a relationship, or being alone(for the time being)? Personally, I’ve had four boyfriends, but nothing really amounted of those relationships. However, even though I don’t have a boyfriend now, I think it was beneficial for me to date in high school(I’m currently a senior) because I learned what type of guys I do and do not like, and yes, what I need to change about MYSELF. Whether we like it or not, relationships are about growth and improvement for both parties involved(in a positive relationship at least.) You shouldn’t change yourself just to meet your partner’s “standards”, but (hopefully) in positive relationships, you realize flaws within yourself that you can change- not to make yourself more marketable(sorry, didn’t know what other term to use) but make yourself a better person. Relationships are about growth and compromise. If you cannot learn from your partner, and they you, and there is no progress, then it may be time to move on.
My first relationship took place my freshman year, and it didn’t last long- I was an inexperienced freshman and was so reluctant to admit that I had never kissed anyone before him because I felt so behind(to a lesser extent, I feel behind now- I don’t want to have a sexual partner until I feel a strong emotional connection; not saying I want to marry them, but at least have an emotional bond.) I was recently almost mocked by a teammate for being a virgin as a senior in high school. My friends who are academics completely understand my perspective, but my other friends continuously feel unsettled by my decision because I am so “late to the game.” My point is, no matter what anyone else thinks, you will be ready for a relationship (or sex, or anything in life, really) when you are ready. If you are too shy to make the first move, then you need to find a partner who is bold(not to the point of dominating you, however.) Befriend them. Talk to them like you would any other person, and something may grow out of it. If you think you’re ugly, I agree with the poster that said beauty is subjective. You will find someone that thinks you’re beautiful physically, but you need to believe that about yourself, first. I still struggle with the concept of beauty, and how I’m supposed to measure up to it. I’m an African- American female, and am not light skinned, and am often put down- indirectly- by the girls in my school for not being light enough, and therefore not attractive enough. Guys don’t say this out loud, but I don’t know what they think about it- oh well. Don’t let anyone dictate what is and is not beautiful. If you don’t think you are pretty, then you will be alone because even if you do find someone, you will not feel comfortable enough with your physical beauty to forge a true connection (you may think your partner always desires a person who is more physically attractive, in your opinion.) Learn to love yourself, and the rest will follow suit.</p>
<p>I haven’t been in a, lets say serious relationship since grade 10, and here I am in grade 12</p>
<p>But, I do have a friend with benefit per say. Girl I used to talk to, graduated from my high school two years before me. I have zero affection towards her, & on days that start with T (two 
she comes over, I kiss her a bit, & then she gives me head, so that’s nice</p>
<p>Thank you for an insightful post, Jazmine.</p>
<p>That was deeep Jazmine! Well said. :)</p>
<p>Guys don’t hold much interest for me unless they’re ridiculously intelligent.
Also, I’m weird looking. Not a lot of options for a nerdy, awkward looking black girl. </p>
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<p>Maybe in college? T_T</p>
<p>Edit: None of the guys in my hs were attractive to me. Srsly.</p>
<p>Pshh that’s just false. I’ll agree with guys being soo much more attractive when they’re ridiculously intelligent though. There was a whole thread about this…</p>
<p>There was? Omgggg </p>
<p>If anyone watches Criminal Minds…Spencer Reid. </p>
<p>Holy heLL I’D TAP THAT.</p>
<p>How do you know if a girl is interested in you? I’d really like to know this, since I have no idea myself and I’m pretty terrible at reading social cues, so if a girl had ever expressed interest in me, I would have completely overlooked it.</p>
<p>Okay, this is a really late reply but…
@000Chet - I agree, if you’re shy and lack confidence and want a relationship, trying to change that is more productive than just feeling bad about it. But in that case, you’d be changing your shyness in order to improve your chances of someone crushing on you… you know? I think I was just saying that, if you don’t change, you’ll probably find someone eventually who likes the shy version of you, which might be the truest version of you… </p>
<p>I’m a bit biased in my opinions though, cuz I’ve always been an Extremely Alone Loner (and happy with it) and through some lucky accident I met someone who actually likes that kind of person and who put a lot of effort into scaling the walls I put up to stop him…</p>
<p>I have an imaginary bae.</p>
<p>I had a boyfriend for two months. Three months later and I am disgusted at myself for what I did with him. I feel like I’m gonna be celibate for the rest of my life. The memories of him still haunt me.
And no he was not abusive. I’m just disgusted at myself.</p>
<p>That’s…interesting. :/</p>
<p>I think some of these posts are getting a little bit TMI for what the public needs to know.</p>
<p>The purpose of this thread was for the majority us socially awkward CCers to join together in our lamentations of not having a significant other. Those of you fortunate enough to boast (or grossly reflect) about your escapades with the opposite sex already have the leverage the knowledge of your own success with which to tease the rest of us. No further detail is necessary. :)</p>
<p>lol this thread is CC at its finest</p>
<p>Relationships aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. Life’s less complicated and happier (for me) when you’re single.</p>