<p>“Shame” and gross generalizations are not particularly helpful for folks trying to make rational and constructive choices. There are a lot of personal dynamics that influence relationships in a family, particularly if they are to live together in close quarters. Giving due consideration to the various options available, weighing pros & cons are good and can lead to a win-win situation for everyone involved. Conversely, falling for shame & blame or blinding oneself to dynamics which make it tough to objectively weigh all factors to come up with good choices is not helpful either.</p>