Will transferring leave you unhappy for the rest of your life?

<p>Due to housing issues, I can cancel my academic contract and I would be charged for all the days I attended classes. My mom think is really admant about leaving and says shes willing to pay for those days. </p>

<p>I will be checking with my academic advisor tomorrow morning and seeing what my options are. If I leave now, I would have to fight for a spot at UW but I think I can do it. I'd call fall quarter my quarter for sort of discovering myself in a way and learning a great deal of new things (living without your family does that to you, even if it was only for three weeks. I've never left my family so this was a definite enlightening experience. I enjoyed it.)</p>

<p>I wouldn't be the first person to regret my decision and then try to rebuild. Hopefully, I can make UW understand that.</p>

<p>Try to speak with folks at UW in person & explain as you eloquently have here how & why you've learned that they're the right place for you. You are not the 1st & will not be the last to grow & change your mind about your initial goals & costs. I'm glad you & your family are working out what will be best for the 4 years instead of just assuming things will "work themselves out."</p>

<p>Try to get things in writing BEFORE making final decisions, especially about your financial obligations -- costs & refunds.</p>

<p>Yeah, I have an email from my housing contract that says I can cancel housing until 10/31 and I've talked to my financial advisor about withdrawing today. She says I will be paying for the classes I've already taken, which at this point is 14 days with five classes. Everything else would get cancelled for the subsequent quarters. </p>

<p>Even if my financial aid is cut at UW, I would still be paying a great deal less than attending UCSD. If I need to cut costs, I will have to live at home but then I'd fight for on-dorm housing sophomore year. </p>

<p>I'm really lucky to have such supportive parents. I explained my situation to them and they agreed, understanding the choice that I made and the decision I essentially chose. If I work hard enough, I can rebuild, I'm sure.
I've always been a hard working student, and during junior and sophomore year, I competed for an internship in the summer with Microsoft and got it. Hopefully, UW will take all this into account and allow me some flexibility.</p>

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out of curiousity: jmmom, are you a mom? and you are a transfer student?

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I'm a mom. And I was a transfer student back when dinosaurs roamed the earth. My S also did an extensive transfer search and application process this past year as he was a Tulane student whose major was phased out due to Katrina and he was accepted a lot of places and now goes to JHU. So I feel as though I've been through the transfer wars in a few ways and check in here from time to time in case I can help.</p>

<p>oh lol, i thought u were those people who go back to college after they have children or something, i see a lot of them @ my community college.</p>

<p>lol, indeed, mojojojo. if only going to college were a paying job, I just might do that. but I've already gone to Wellesley for BA, UC-Berkeley and Stanford for two different masters degrees. So I guess I've done enough in the going to college dept. :)</p>

<p>I officially withdrew today. I've thought it through and it seems very abrupt but I need to leave before I find myself even more devastated.</p>

<p>I hope I can find the same kind of happiness elsewhere.</p>

<p>Good luck, Akai. I'm sure you will have many good options for you and it is wise to not pursue a course that would leave you with a debt of $120,000 for undergrad only. I'm confident you will be very happy if you allow yourself to be.</p>

<p>so, your no longer going to take classes? like your going back to Wash.?</p>

<p>I've contacted UW to let them know I want to attend Spring quarter and to ask what I can do to do so. I'm going to spend fall quarter either working or getting things in order from this experience.</p>

<p>Good luck, Akai. I'm with HImom. Go forth expecting to be happy, knowing there might be an adjustment period, and you will be happy. Resilience and the ability to adapt to changing needs and new situations are great life skills and you will be giving yourself the gift of those skills.</p>

<p>Sometimes we forget how terrific a resource College Confidential can be for someone, and then we see situations like this.</p>

<p>Good luck! I think you made the right decision.</p>

<p>"but I've already gone to Wellesley for BA, UC-Berkeley and Stanford for two different masters degrees. "</p>

<p>In other words, Jmmom is hardcore and has good advice. :D</p>

<p>try taking some online classes while you're waiting for spring semester to start</p>

<p>Akai, I think you made the right decision. I am a UCSD student and I am not really a fan of this school, and I am transfering, obviously. </p>

<p>I don't know why you became so enamoured with UCSD in the first place, but realistically speaking this place is not worth 120k of debt. I think if you were to spend more time here, you would realize this yourself. </p>

<p>And for a major like CS, I don't think undergrad prestige matters that much at all.</p>

<p>I'm going to work my ass off to get back on track. I can't have UCSD, so I need to move on as fast as I can. I'm going to hit the ground running! :)</p>

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good luck</p>