<p>People often want help doing things. What kind of things you ask? they want help with very concrete things, human things, things that can be conveyed, that their fellow humans can understand.</p>
<p>Like, they want to purge x trait or get y item, etc. And often they want advice on how to do this (i.e they want you to support their belief so their brain can switch from contemplating mode to accomplishing mode), or (more rarely) they want direct help (money, for example). </p>
<p>Why do they want these things? because they believe it would makes them HAPPY. And to some degree they are probably right.</p>
<p>However, I often find that rather than helping someone get thing y, my own person thinks that they might be even HAPPIER if they got thing z (which is not what they want).</p>
<p>In this case, I usually won't suggest y, because I would feel bad about doing so. I would feel like I wasn't being honest and really helping them in the way that I think they really might want but don't know. </p>
<p>So usually I will stay silent, and let others offer y, the thing the person is asking for, and not involve myself. Sometimes I might try to hint at thing z, or name it explicitly. </p>
<p>Now my question: IS THIS MORAL???? Should i help the person with what they literally want, or try to satisfy them in the way they really want (which often means not giving them the thing that they literally want, but something else, like alternative advice, etc).</p>
<p>Does anyone have similar feelings on occasions? if so, what do you do, and why?</p>