@cellomom2 I will keep MI Tech in mind. Wayne State is too close to home. Every time I bring it up, mom says, “We’ll figure it out, don’t worry about it. My dad [grandpa] will help.” Grandpa in his conversations with me don’t seem to hint this, but it’s her dad. Maybe she knows her way around him. I don’t really speak to him much. We aren’t really that close for good reason.
When I spoke about colleges with this same grandpa, he insisted that I not go to Wayne State, Detroit Mercy, or anything in Flint because he grew up in those parts and “has seen things he will never forget.” My mom agreed with him. Fortunately for me, this knocks out most of the schools in this area. My mom knows this as well and has no problem with me leaving the metro area. This was our only discussion about universities we all had and it was probably 7-9 months ago.
She also didn’t seem too willing to have me go to the community college. She had an apprenticeship through it and wasn’t impressed with their college courses she did have to take.
I know about the NPC, but I don’t have all the required things to enter everything accurately. So I end up guessing, which is better than nothing. I made my mom aware of FASFA and she just said okay and that we’d take care of it.
I would have applied to Lawrence Tech because they had all my majors despite being close to my home, but according to the NPC it seems like a waste of time.
My mom makes around $65,000-$68,000 before taxes. After they are all taken out, she ends up with around $50,000. I know this because I threw a number out and she said she made a little more, so I threw another out and she said that was about what she made. FASFA’s estimate didn’t seem like it would be too kind.
I’m fine with staying in Michigan. East Lansing, Grand Rapids, Mt Pleasant, etc all are 1.5+ hours away. I just don’t want to rule out leaving Michigan so quickly.
@intparent It isn’t about the test anxiety or about the lack of relationship I have with any of my family members. I have had two counselors throughout high school, one retired and the other came 2nd semester of my Jr. year. Neither of them have helped me at all in this college process. If I asked them the same question I asked you all and they both said, “You’ll figure it out. You’re a smart girl.” When I asked them about the test anxiety and what I should do to aid it, the old one said, “You did fine. Your scores will get you into plenty of schools.” while the new one said “I don’t know.” The old counselor was constantly trying to drive me away from taking STEM, Honors, and AP classes despite teacher recommendations. When I had a hole in my senior year schedule, the new one had absolutely no suggestions for me and couldn’t answer my questions about other classes. When I asked them both about tips to pay for college and suggested I join an ROTC program, the old one laughed at me and said that I wouldn’t be able to do that. The new one told me to fill out FASFA. Then, the old one proceeded to hand me a list of scholarships that were for college freshman and up.
The new one has known me since 6th grade as she was my counselor 6th-8th. She is aware of the fact that I have anxiety issues, but didn’t know what to tell me for testing strategies. I have no doubts that I could get her to write me a good letter, but I am all alone in this application/FASFA/ACT mess.
One of my teachers, who was in a similar situation with an unsupportive family and anxiety issues told me that when I get into a uni, I should go seek medication there. That is the only option I have right now.