Now that I think of it, I believe that I would’ve became friends with my current college friends if they went to my high school, but it’s hard to say as well.
However, in high school, most people are labeled into social groups, which doesn’t help at all. Even though you don’t see this happening in college, people will still put themselves in groups, but not to the extent of labeling others.
Most of my kid’s friends in college (so far) have been his classmates in HS.
My son made most of his friends through music and theater, in HS and in college.
The difference with college is that by living in dorms or college-student concentrated apartments, you have the opportunity to spend much more time with people. In high school, other than at something like boarding school, you don’t see nearly as many other students in their off hours, etc. No daily dinners, no daily study sessions, etc.
My favorite roommate and I would probably not have been friends in high school because she was on the quiet side and I was involved in everything. I would not have noticed her. A friend from high school who attended my same college ended up spending more time with others in her major. We were/are still friendly, but I didn’t get to spend nearly as much time with her in college. Where as my roommate and I were on the same schedule and agreeable to the same things so we were together all the time outside of classes.
(Is this intended strictly for other college goers?)
When I went to college, college changed me. The people, the environment, the necessary proximity to others who had never spoken to, or met (!) someone who looked like me.
It was, as Templeton from Charlotte’s Web sang, a veritable ‘smorgasbord, orgasbord, orgasbord’ of personalities, personas, characters and characteristics.
I bloomed on the spot… So did many of my peers.
So, no, I would not have been friends in high school with my college friends.
I would have been friends with my college friends in HS but not sure about the other way around. I would have maintained (and expanded) relationships with a few HS kids in college. Am still friends with them today. Would have grown apart from the rest of them. College is a great time to become who you really are. You’re not forced into settings with the same group of kids.