Today someone in my grade told me that they wouldn’t to see their friends from highschool at college, as they would want to like start over or something like that? How would you or did you feel if you saw friends from your highschool at college?
I love having two high school friends here…we met up for lunch once a week last semester. One of them seems like he wants to minimize time spent with us, though, so there are definitely different views on that one. Do what feels right to you.
It’s nice to see old schoolmates because you can catch up on what common friends are up to and hear about who is trying to reinvent themselves.
One guy from my high school goes to my college. We were friends in high school and we’re still friends in college. Nothing awkward about it.
None of my high school classmates are here at my school with me, although there are two older kids from my HS. It’s very refreshing.
Had 5 kids from my high school in my class at Brown, and 3 of them were even in one of my majors too. Didn’t really think too much about it. I was only really close with one of them although friendly with all 5. During the beginning it was a nice safety net for things - definitely helped expand my social circles but I don’t think it really had any major impact on any of us.
Lol, depends on who it is. I go to a big public state university, so there’s a lot of kids from my high school here. With some of them I will run across a field to hug them, while with others I will pray that we don’t bump into each other. But honestly, most of the time I don’t see them too much since everyone has different interests/majors, usually it’s limited to saying hi on the street or in a dining hall.
It is really nice to catch up with high school friends on campus once in a while though, I did that recently and we had a great time.
Both of my kids feel strongly that they don’t want to know anyone at their college. It’s one of the reasons they’re against going to a state school – our HS sends 50+ kids every year just to the flagship.
Personally I’d like to see some friends from highschool in college, Someone mentioned that it means you can’t really expand your social circle
but I don’t really agree with that
I think in reality it matters very little if people from your HS are at your much larger college. But some students make up in their head that they can’t start fresh if people know them. I think it is an immature mindset.
@BrownParent I don’t think that’s the case with my kids – I think it’s more about not wanting social obligations, hangers-on, that kind of thing. But I could be wrong. I have no problem with them having preferences.
@BrownParent it’s probably true for the most part. I have many former high school classmates who attend either one of Penn State, Delaware or Rutgers. I always hear how they mostly stick with their high school friends and that they always travel home on the weekends. They’re afraid to branch out and grow up.
@LBad96 That’s pretty judgmental. The transition to college is rough for a lot of people. For instance, if I hadn’t had lunch with my high school friends every week, I would have eaten every. single. meal. by myself. Week in and week out. All semester. That starts to wear on your happiness and health after a while.
So, at risk of seeming brusque, don’t say that, it’s cruel.
Many moons ago when I was in college at a state school I enjoyed bumping into my high school friends from time to time. It was fun to catch up, but we didn’t see each other often and it was no big deal one way or the other to me. I think like every possible factor, being at the same school with friends from home could be great for some and not for others. It depends on the person and what their needs and wants are.
did anyone keep their highschool friends and branch out too?
and btw is there really a point in having friends in senior year, I mean since its likely we’ll never meet again
If you have to ask the question, I guess not…?
If you actually make the effort and don’t just shrug and be like “UNAVOIDABLE, SO SAD, OUR FRIENDSHIP IS OVER” it’s not “likely you’ll never meet again.” I’m still dating my best friend from high school (two years yesterday). If you’d be fine with being completely and totally alone for a year…and then attempting to meet new people while having no fallback of old friends…then sure, get rid of all your friends senior year?? I am baffled.
I still have many friends from high school (even though I’ve already graduated from college), and I still made many friends in college (which I am still in touch with, even after moving away). They are completely separate social circles of people, and there are even different groups of friends that I had in college that rarely ever hung out with each other. It’s not like there’s a limit to the number of friends you can have, and with technology these days, it’s pretty easy to stay in touch with people even when you all move to different parts of the country (or world).
I still have friends from high school. You don’t have to assume that just because you don’t go to school together anymore that you’ll never see each other again. If you don’t want to see them, sure, you probably never will. But if you actually want to see them again, then, of course, you can. You can webcam with friends, talk on the phone, and text/chat with them online. You can visit with them when you are both in your hometown for school breaks or holidays. You may even visit each other in college (which I did with friends who went to colleges in the general area), and I knew other friends who went even farther to visit each other. When I was interviewing for grad schools all over the country, I often stayed with friends that I still had from high school. It’s not like you automatically lose all of your friends after high school (unless, of course, you want to and just let the friendship die).
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