After initial exuberance with an admission from Exeter, my son, out of the blue, confesses to some hesitation. He has a few concerns and wants to rethink going to Peddie. His main concerns are 1) He that he thinks that his legacy status gave him an unfair advantage and he does not really deserve to be there and 2) He will be at the bottom of the class because he is just not as smart/gifted as the average Exeter student.
I must say, I was impressed by his maturity over the matter - most kids would simply choose to go to the “best” school. He stated that he felt that kids were happier at Peddie and that he would have an easier time distinguishing himself. Some background - there was an informal ranking in our family that always had Exeter as #1, but there was a lot of discussion on the #2 school because of the realistic possibility that Exeter would not be an option. Peddie and Choate were the favorites for the #2 position, but Choate rejected him.
Is this simply cold feet? Throughout the whole process, Exeter has been his dream. He spent the summer there and loved it and during the interviews/visits he was so excited to be there and consider the possibility of matriculating there.
We were so sure that this was where he was going that we only scheduled a visit to New England in a tight travel schedule. A revisit to Peddie would be nearly impossible - we could devote a day to travel to and from New Hampshire.
I think that it is a little dangerous to allow a 13-year old’s cold feet (if it is indeed just cold feet) to determine such an important decision, but I want to be respectful to his opinions and choices. It is his life and Peddie is certainly a fantastic school. How should I approach this new problem. It is with the utmost respect to all other applicants who may have received a different result, when I say that I recognize that this is a good problem to have.
Have any other parents faced with this?