Hi everyone,
This year, I’m going to a new prep school where I will be a boarder. I’m a girl and I will be a repeat sophomore; I am very excited, but looking at the news these past couple of days, suddenly, the idea of going to prep school is making me feel sick and I think that most parents can guess why.
I know that not all teenage boys are like Owen Labrie and I know that the rape case doesn’t represent SPS and is not a whole portrait of what the school offers. (I’m not attending SPS, but I am attending another boarding school of equal “prestige” [prestige is moronic, but hey, it gets the point across])
However, the thing is that this case is not just confined to SPS. This could happen at ANY boarding school or day school or public school, for that matter. I am the same age as the girl who has gone through this horrendous ordeal and I cannot even begin to fathom being in her shoes. I know that these cases are usually HUGE and become headline news when they happen, but that is only when victims of rape step forward and report their cases… which 68% of victims do not do. 44% of victims of sexual assault are under eighteen. These stats are making me incredibly nervous and to be honest, I am feeling scared to the point of tears at the idea of going off to school. The dreamy bubble of boarding school has been popped for me and I don’t know how to approach this. I knew about the drinking and the smoking and the occasional money being stolen out of dorm rooms, but this has blown my mind in the worst way possible. Prep school has been all I wanted since the fourth grade and now that I have it, I am so scared that I don’t know what to do.
This case has reopened a can of worms that needs to invoke discussion: Prep schools are viewed as paradise by many CC’ers and a nirvana where it’s educational bliss and cute boys/girls and “Whoo, dorm life!”, but at the same time, there is clearly a potential for dangerous and horrific situations that we rarely discuss here.
Parents, I’m sure this might seem a bit dark or morbid, but I honestly don’t know who else to ask who wouldn’t be biased (If I asked my parents about rape, I think they might get a bit uncomfortable or deny that it’s even a possibility)
I am a fairly attractive 16 year old girl and I am now scared of being taken advantage of. There. Putting it out there bluntly. This probably sounds moronic and over dramatic to many of you, but I honestly don’t know anyone who would be less biased than random people on the internet who have no clue who I am.
How can I lose these fears/go into school feeling safe? Any precautions to take?
Sorry for the long post and thanks in advance.