Today’s paper had an article about reselling wedding dresses:
If the link doesn’t work, here are the sites they discuss:
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You are a very good mil to help out on the dress price. Very nice 
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I love that- being cranky if I need to. Next time someone is giving me the runaround I’m going to say- do I need to get cranky or are you going to help me? 
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@CountingDown I wanted to thank you for the suggestion to go to Jack B Fabrics. D had shopped quite often at Fleishman Fabrics which is across the street, but had never checked out Jack B. She’s on spring break this week, so she stopped in at Jack B on Monday and found a lace pattern she liked a lot. But she held off because she wanted to visit Mood Fabrics in Manhattan. On Tuesday she took the train from Philly and went to Mood She didn’t find anything she liked as well as the lace at Jack B, so she called them and said she’d be in on Wednesday morning to pick it up. Unfortunately this morning she tested positive for Covid (second time, fully vaxxed and boosted). She gave them her credit card to have them cut and hold the lace for her. You’ve created a new convert to Jack B Fabrics!
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@corinthian – I’m so happy your D liked Jack B’s! Their wedding goods have always been the best I could find.
Sorry she got Covid again, but glad they can ship to her.
I’m driving up to Jack B’s tomorrow (!) to look for ivory wool to make a tallis for our rabbi, who is being honored for becoming emeritus in May. He wants wool or cotton, but his main criterion is that the fabric isn’t slippery.
DIL wants to wait til she has a dress before deciding on a veil, so I’m looking at lace and iridescent veiling for her, but will just take pics so I can order if it saves me another trip.
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Soooo pretty!
My daughter got engaged last weekend. Everyone (me, her sister, his family) knew but her. What I didn’t know was that he’d bought the ring in September but didn’t ask because my mother died, some other events happened and he kept putting it off. He squeezed it in last week because my daughters went off together this week for a spring break trip.
It has taken them 8.5 years to get to this point, so the wedding should only be another 2-3 years away. What they’ve learned is they don’t have to invite everyone they’ve ever met, or all who have ever invited them to their weddings (and there have been a lot of those!). They do not have to have a bridal party of 16, they do not have to have a destination wedding, they do not have to have a theme.
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Question for the group - How would you feel if you were related to the bride or groom’s parent, and your (adult) kid was the only one on that branch not invited to a wedding (meaning all other aunts, uncles, and cousins were invited). How would you react?
Hmmm. It would be truly awkward to have the kid not invited. Are there any other dyamics at work here?
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This actually happened to my daughter. And we felt hurt and angered. My daughter still can’t stand this relative although she’s good at faking it.
Are you sure it was intentional and not an oversight or a lost invitation. That actually happened to me once and the host was mortified.
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That really is a recipe for hurt feelings so sorry that has happened. When my son got married last year, their original plan was to invite no cousins at all. But, then my younger son encouraged my son (the groom) to invite the oldest first cousin (there are only 4 first cousins on our side) closest in age and the one they keep into contact with the most. I explained how awkward that would be and son ended up inviting all 4 first cousins (plus the longtime girlfriend of the oldest cousin). They all came. The bride invited no cousins at all so no potential hurt feelings there. She has many more cousins and just decided to invite no aunts, uncles , or cousins on her side at all.
Has there been any explanation of why only one cousin was excluded?
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No estrangement or bad blood or anything like that, and it definitely wasn’t a mistake or oversight.
So, sorry. Do you have any theory, guesses then about this since there is no estrangement or oversight?
If I felt my child was snubbed I’d likely politely decline the invitation and send a modest gift.
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I think any couple should feel free to invite who they really want to be there. And not everybody wants to invite cousins to their wedding. When there are tons of cousins and only those closest are invited, that might be something easier to understand. But, if EVERY cousin is invited except for your child, that would be harder to understand,
especially with no explanation. And the couple (or their parents) may potentially have to deal with some upset family members .
But, guest lists are hard and sometimes tough choices have to be made . I would be tempted to just ask the family member why only your child was not invited. Get it out in the open so feelings can be addressed . Even if the guest list probably does not change, you will have at least addressed your feelings and tried to get some clarification.
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When my daughter was first thinking of getting married a few years ago, she said she wasn’t going to be inviting the cousins or even all my siblings. Some of that is because her BF has a ton of relatives. Now she’s engage but has been living back in the city where most of our relatives are located and she’s spent more time with the cousins. I think she’s realizing the she can’t just pick some and leave others out. My brother has 4 kids, the two oldest cousins and the two youngest and she’s been sending time with the two youngest. She’s part of the ‘core cousins’, the five in the middle who are all within 3 years of each other.
It will be interesting to see what she does. They will be paying for the wedding, so it’s their choice. Personally, I hope they pick a cheaper venue and style of wedding and include everyone, but it is their choice.
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@1214mom I also wondered if there was a chance it’s an oversight or lost invitation. Like @bhs1978 , we also had that happen in our family just recently. I have a nephew getting married in July. I got a call from one of my nieces (cousin of the groom). She awkwardly explained that her mom (the widow of one of my brothers) had not received an invitation even though all of her adult children (cousins of the groom) had. This niece called me because she felt more comfortable talking to me about it than her aunt, the MOG. I immediately knew this had to be a mistake, and reached out to the MOG. Sure enough, it was a case of a lost invitation and the MOG was mortified and quickly corrected it.
Edited: I just saw the post saying it definitely wasn’t an oversight. That’s sad, then.
I am in the hospital (see recent Covid thread) and as my symptoms dragged on, I dreaded the thought that I may be sick for my daughter’s wedding in November. Ugh! I am usually an optimistic person, but this long Covid has tested that for sure! I do feel quite a bit better, and all I can do is hope for the best! I think my daughter (only child, single mom, adoptee, amazingly supportive fiance, third year medical student) may be terrified on some level so I am trying to be low key and tell her I don’t need her to visit (1.5-2 hour car ride). But it’s hard!
First, so sorry you are going through this!
Second, I really understand where you are coming from. We don’t want to bother our kids and worry them. My husband recently needed to be hospitalized and had surgery that wasn’t planned.
It was during work hours and sent the kids a text, nothing to worry about but dad is being sent in an ambulance 2 hours away. My son texts back, doesn’t sound like nothing!!!
Here’s hoping that your health gets the push it needs in the hospital to get it going on the right direction. And that you’ll be at your daughter’s wedding dancing all night. 
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