Is she making it or is she having someone do it? The lace is beautiful! 
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Sorry, should have been clearer. The cousin had not even been invited to begin with, so no RSVP’s involved with her. Cousins, kids were not invited. It was a fairly small wedding and we both have small families. Even decades ago, RSVP’s seemed pretty common for weddings. Mail in then, mail in or online now.
Back in the day, we called anyone who hadn’t responded by rsvp deadline to see whether to expect them. We had a 7 course chinese meal and couldn’t just have 1/2 empty tables that we paid full price for. 95% of so did rsvp.
One of H’s relatives whom we had invited as a couple responded that they and they and their 6 or so adult kids were coming! I believe their combined gift was $20 or so! My in laws were ok with it but I thought that was very rude and nervy.
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Then and now, some people just seem to want to party on someone else’s dime!
She plans to make it herself. Yesterday she texted me: “Having bought the fabric I am now freaked out about how fancy/nice/expensive the fabric is, like I’m not good enough to do this.” I told her I believe in her (of course). She has a lot of experience sewing, but not of wedding dresses. As a trial run, she made herself a satin cocktail dress that is a 7 panel princess seam dress with a lace yoke. She also made herself a dress form.
Her wedding dress design is a mermaid/trumpet style skirt with a sleeveless lace bodice.
She has been following a blog called In The Folds about pattern making. She created a 1/8 scale toile and now is working on a 1/2 scale toile. Part of the exercise with the 1/2 scale is to get the train length and shape to be right.
She views this as a personal challenge. She decided she’d rather have a (relatively) simple dress that she made herself instead of more elaborate dress she could’ve bought. I have to say that she didn’t learn any sewing skills from me. She’s entirely self taught with the help of online resources.
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That is cool that she is making this herself. The fabric is beautiful!
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My neighbor made her dd’s dress, and it was beautiful. Gosh, aside from the lack of talent, I would be so stressed. Admire that your dd is taking this on.
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I hope we get to see the finished dress. The fabric is gorgeous!
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Thanks! I’m pretty sure she’ll let me post a photo of the finished dress. Just don’t hold yiour breath because I think it will take quite a while. (We’re now 6 months out from the wedding date.)
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It is gorgeous fabric—good choice! I admire your D. Back in the day, I made all my banquet and prom gowns and dresses. I did make princess line with all those extra panels because they fit me better. Especially with lining, it often ended up being a ton of pieces and lots of fabric. It’s great she has 6 months to go so she can craft her vision.
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Is dark navy an acceptable color to wear to a wedding, if you have bright jewelry with it? (And cork-like shoes)? I am not a “wrap” person so I don’t see that as an option, but I may find a lighter color sweater.
My answer is yes unless you really, really think it reads black. (TBH, I also don’t know why black is prohibitive for a wedding - people wear a lot of black in everyday life! It doesn’t have to demonstrate doom and gloom - I think it also can nicely read formal!)
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Absolutely - dark navy is fine.
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Dark navy is fine. I also have no problem wearing black to a weddding.
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Interesting about the black. The other choice I have is a black background dress, but it has bright blue and white flowers, with maybe a little green in it too. I think I’ll shop from my closet and won’t have to buy a new dress.
Thanks
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I just wore as MOB last fall a dark navy pant suit (the wide legs looked like a long length skirt) with Native American made brightly colored small bead drop earrings and a matching bracelet. The shoes were one inch heels tan leather with wood heel with a zip on the side with toes and back of foot exposed sandals. This was intentionally low for dancing all night and it worked. It fit great with the wedding and I got lots of compliments.
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I was MOG in navy-- I bought clip on bows at Etsy for my pumps, the color of the bridal party (with the bride’s okay, of course)
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I recently attended a wedding where both the MOG and MOB wore long black dresses as well as several guests ( some long, some short). Groomsmen wore black suits with emerald green ties, bridesmaids were in long emerald green dresses. Everyone looked stunning. I think both black or dark navy are appropriate to wear as a guest!
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I think the only “off-limits” color for MO* or guests is white! 
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What do you think of signature or specialty cocktails? We’re working through a questionnaire from the caterer and that’s one of the questions: do we plan on having one. The groom is into cocktails and wants to have a paper plane cocktail as the specialty cocktail. Is this a nice touch or a waste of money? I read that having one can speed up service at the cocktail hour because they can be batched. What do people think?