<p>To get some background, please search my previous threads. </p>
<p>I've finally found a place with a good number of girls. Now how do I talk to them?</p>
<p>Due to 5 years of electrical engineering (internship option) I've never really spoken to girls. I've been told that I come off as quite creepy. What should I talk about?</p>
<p>One major problem: This place has a very high turnover rate. So if I see a girl once, I likely won't see her again or at least for a very long time because people attend different events or quit. So I need to get her 'number' the first time I see her. But how do i do that???</p>
<p>Anyway. I just want to clarify my point earlier: Why don’t you find a few that you think will make good friends???
And I highly doubt there isn’t any girl in your OWN circle.</p>
it’s one thing to not have had a date…it’s a whole 'nother thing to have “never really spoken to girls” and not know what to talk about (the latter is a sign that you’re searching too hard)</p>
<p>so try building friendships first, maybe w/ girls you like, but arent that attracted to</p>
<p>"And I highly doubt there isn’t any girl in your OWN circle. "</p>
<p>I have female aquitances but not friends who i hang out with every week. I have out with 3 guys every week and none of us know any girls. To be honest, none of us really even have friends outside our circle.
Anyways, this is my fav quote from one of the guys after I asked him to if he knew any girls</p>
<p>“nope, and even if i did, i’d keep them for myself first”</p>
<p>Outside of me, these 3 other guys combined have gone on a total of 1 date in the past 5 years. They’re really great people, just not the best with girls.</p>
<p>“Girls are like apples…the best ones are at the top of the trees. The boys don’t want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples that are on the ground that aren’t as good, but easy. So the apples at the top think there is something wrong with them, when, in reality, they are amazing. They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who’s brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree…”
— Pete Wentz</p>
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I second this… I just got out of a year or so relationship because I wasn’t patient enough. I picked the easy ones, and like bad apples they were, it made me sick… Time to go hunting for more…</p>
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THIS IS NOT A PROBLEM… THIS IS AN OPPORTUNITY… Please tell me where/what this place is… Also, you don’t really need her number nowadays… just ask her if you can facebook her… that wont creep out a girl as much as asking for her number…</p>
<p>why don’t you talk to her as a regular person instead of thinking about the fact that she’s a girl? talking to a girl should be the same as talking to a guy (if they’re someone you’ve never met), but eventually you get to know the person and you’ll find out what to say. I don’t understand what’s so intimidating about talking to a girl…you wont come across as creepy unless you have a creepy appearance…such as the way you dress or something that would lead to stereotyping.</p>
<p>What does this have to do with engineering? Why ask here? We have nothing in common except related majors. Your problem isn’t caused by your major; it’s caused by you. Go ask for help in a dating forum. The advice will probably be better too.</p>
<p>^^My thoughts exactly ijamji and ken285. Don’t make it a big deal to talk to anyone. Pretty soon, you’ll stop putting on so much pressure that this is a girl I’d like to “talk to” and start enjoying just the friendship. If it’s right, it’ll continue from there.</p>
I’m the other way around…
I have about as many female friends as guy friends, and I am really comfortable talking to my female friends since I’m sure that I will never get attracted to them.</p>
<p>If Im attracted to a girl, I usually find that I become kindda awkward when they’re around me…
Maybe that’s just my weird chemistry? I get nervous if I’m attracted to a girl, otherwise I’m normal.</p>
<p>I don’t know… I don’t find this to be abnormal. This seems to be true with me as well although i don’t know whether I would say I am weird. </p>
<p>As for me, I hope that Indian culture should work in my favor due to arranged marriage and I will never need to date or to have a girlfriend. I have also been generally awkward around women but I once read somewhere: those who do well in engineering school and avoid being diverted by desire to get a girlfriend or partying get the high paying jobs at the end and attract great women with their wealth and accomplishments. I hope to do this but sigh… I am not free of distrctions but just have other ones.</p>
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<p>Haha don’t stress. There is a right time and woman for most people and there are just as many women out there in the world as men. Just by sheer odds, it is easier to get a girlfriend than a job… now when quality is a factor, I am not sure.</p>