They lied!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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<p>so this is the impression that I grew up with. </p>

<p>If I go to university, work hard and get a stable income girls would be "all over me". </p>

<p>So I went to university in electrical engineering, worked hard, had a few job offers even in this economy and choose one of them. I admit I'm not the smartest student but my work ethic and determination allowed me to graduate at the top of the class. </p>

<p>While I didn't really expect girls to suddenly be all over me I would have thought that things would be better for me than when I was in school. This is not the case. </p>

<p>Heres what I've tried:</p>

<p>Joining a sports club: sadly, there are few girls here and the ones around are at least twice my age. </p>

<p>Joining yoga: more girls but still quite a bit older than me. I talked to one girl for a few minutes though. </p>

<p>Joining the gym: there are a lot of good looking girls working out but I don't know how to approach them. It seems like an individual activity anyways, ie lifting weights. </p>

<p>Internet dating: biggest failure of them all. There are many many girls here but my response rate is only around 1-2%. I message all girls in the entire database aged 18-24 but only got back 4 responses, none of which were positive. They stopped messaging me after a few emails. </p>

<p>Volunteering: I've volunteered at a couple of community events. There were girls but many of them are in high school. Another problem is the very high turnover rate. I went to a particular organization 3-4 times and each time it was a totally different group of people. This means that if I were to want to get a girl's contact, it would have to be done at the first meeting as we are unlikely to see each other again. This is hard for me as I haven't really been good at talking to girls. </p>

<p>I've heard that the best way to meet people is through people. I have a couple of close friends who I see every week but we pretty much hang out as the 3 of us. Neither of us know many other people. </p>

<p>So any advice? I'm really trying here.</p>

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<p>There is no man that has women “all over them.” Unless of course they are famous musicians or actors :rolleyes:</p>

<p>Do you attend religious services regularly? Typically single men are at a premium there. </p>

<p>Honestly, though, you just need to be patient. It takes time to actually meet someone that you, as a person, really hit it off with. And then it takes time for that relationship to develop.</p>

<p>She is out there, and will be worth the wait <em>hugs</em></p>

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<p>Oh god. This is engineering forum, and not engineering dating advice forum man…
But anyway.</p>

<p>Good girls like mature and responbile guys. But they don’t come to you. You have to approach them.</p>

<p>IMO I wouldn’t do any of the stuff you did above. What happen to your own little friend circle? Aren’t there any girl friend from your own university? I am not the kind of guy that goes out and ask for number. I like this girl for 2 years (wooo 2 years big deal). You see you can’t just go out and expect a crush right away. </p>

<p>Why don’t you focus on your own or school, and in the mean time approach the circle that you have. </p>

<p>If I were a serious and good girl, I would never gave out my number to anyone meeting the first time. Hell no.</p>

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<p>Not being so creepy and abrasive would be a good start. Seriously, in the zillion posts you have made here on this same subject, you have come off incredibly creepy. You have gotten a lot of good advice and clearly followed none of it. Stop asking.</p>

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<p>Who is the “They” in they lied? Your parents? Friends? Teachers? You should seek out the “Theys” and chastise them mercilessly! How dare they lie to you! Hard to believe girls aren’t all over you.</p>

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<p>Grow up. Seriously.</p>

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<p>Yep, this is getting old.</p>

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<p>Again, look into Tom Leykis; PM me for the site with the archives.</p>

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<p>Try Orthodontics. Even as an adult it is something with a positive connotation (you are improving yourself) and opens up a lot of conversations. The least you’ll end up with is perfectly straight teeth. The busy Ortho offices are usually staffed with a lot of young women and you get to go back every 5-6 weeks.</p>

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<p>Take your new salary to some third world country and be flashy with your money. Girls will be all over you and you can take one home with you. They probably won’t speak much English but maybe in your case that will help.</p>

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<p>It’s about personality, not money.</p>

<p>Even if you “had girls all over you” for your money, would you really want that? That’s not love. What’s going to happen when you get laid off?</p>

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<p>You need to be the most majestic buck in the forest.</p>

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<p>why are you trying so hard?</p>

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<p>^ Good point from siglio21. I met my husband after I’d given up on dating anyone, and started taking flying lessons to fill up my time! Not trying so hard worked very well.</p>

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<p>OK - there are usually young female teachers looking for educated guys. Outside of hanging around the ‘teachers supply stores’ pretending to look for something, I don’t know how you meet them, but maybe somebody else does.</p>

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<p>I recommend prostitutes. Good initial training… Or so I hear. ; )</p>

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<p>…or just a major that has a greater abundance of hot female instructors to teach you the ropes.</p>

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<p>Then the love quickly fades. Let us not delude ourselves that love is not a function of money.</p>

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<p>Does money affect a relationship? Of course it does. That doesn’t mean it should be the primary reason you’re interested in someone though.</p>

<p>Are there some couples out there that are together primarily because of money? Of course there are, but I don’t consider that to be an ideal relationship.</p>

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<p>There are as many ideal relationships are there are diodes that act like ideal diodes i.e. zero. This is a very imperfect world, full of imperfect people predisposed toward base instincts and very stupid actions. Love is one of the ideal things which simply does not exist; what one mistakes for love is just lust seeping into the frontal lobe.</p>