<p>I’m not sure if what I’m doing is downright wrong, or if my instincts are right. I have a friend, whom I known since our freshmen year. This friend of mine is a “good friend,” not exactly best friend, but close. Trouble is, I always felt like she never did treat me like a friend. She constantly talk behind my back, make fun of me, my brother, my family and my culture. Not to mention, when I get mad at her because of her own action, she gets mad back at me.
This friend of mine tend to boastful, and never did care when I try to tell her my woes. When I went to the emergency room two years ago, this friend of mine did not even care that I was on the brink of kicking the bucket. Now, we just had a big fight ( sort of). I told her I can’t make it to a big event, and it made her mad. She said some hurtful stuff that made me feel depressed. So, I shrugged this event and just let it pass. Later on my other friend told me that my “good friend” is spreading rumors behind my back and pretty much talking bad about me.
I resolved that I had enough of her bad behavior. The next day I did not talk to her, and ignored her existence. My friend also did the same, and we have been ignoring each other’s existence for the past 2 weeks . Since I’m a senior, after we graduate I ( might) never see her again. Is it right for me to ignore my friend, or am I being a total dolt ? How should handle this? This had just been troubling me…</p>
<p>As you’ll most likely almost never see her again you can play the situation however you would like. I suppose my point is: If you knew the answer what would it be?</p>
<p>I don’t get what you’re really worrying about. If she is constantly spreading bad rumors about you, she can’t be considered as a friend. And why should she be so mad at you for not being able to go to an event. I suggest you continue ignoring her.</p>
<p>I’d call you dumb for calling her a friend</p>
<p>Think you mean a Toxic friend plus stop letting people treat you badly.</p>
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Stick and stones might break my bones, but words would never hurt me :] </p>
<p>@ At Everyone else:
Yes, I know it might seem such an “obvious” answer already. I call her my friend because for the past couple years ( minus senior year) she was pretty solid, she seems nice and was really funny. Probably because I never hang out with her during those times, but mostly with my other group of friends. This year we were both stuck in a couple of classes together, and we ended up spending a lot of time with each other. Apparently, she could say some mean things and I would just let it pass. I don’t like the feeling of losing a friend, but I’m wondering if what I’m doing is right. I’m not sure if ignoring her only stoop to a childish act, or should I personally confront her?</p>
<p>@ Batllo
Yes, I should definitely should stop letting people stomp all over me, but I’m afraid. You see, I have a very long patience, but I a terribly bad temper ( when I lose my cool). It’s really bad, and I’m afraid I might hurt someone ( physically and mentally). It’s just so out of my character to do such things.</p>
<p>Anyone who has ever been bound in the social shackles of high school knows that you cannot necessarily sever a friendship with someone just because they have badmouthed you.</p>
<p>Avoid physical contact and the toxins will not be transmitted.</p>