<p>Try to start ten conversations a day with a girl. Start with nasty ones, they’ll be easier to talk to. Do that for a couple months and ya should start to build some comfort talking to them. Also work on things that are going to build your confidence. Go to the gym get a hair cut buy some nice clothes buy a nice pair of shoes, whatever. At the end of the day it all comes down to confidence. You’re ****ed without at least a bit of confidence. And yes job / major means nothing, if anything engineering is an advantage.</p>
<p>Are you not working with any young women?</p>
<p>Thermo, I thought of you when I watched “The Big Bang Theory” tonight. A good primer on what NOT to do around women.</p>
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<p>If this is your definition of “living life”, then what is the point of getting married? You don’t need to be married to reproduce, and plus the way you put it, it sounds like the end of all things good…</p>
<p>Personally, I don’t believe the people that wait that long are generally “happier”. If you watch any TV (e.g. reality shows), generally the ones that wait that long are missing something/someone in their life, and finally decide that they wish to pursue a long-term companion. Material possessions don’t equate to longterm happiness. Plus, I’m sure you can travel, own a “bad ass car” and house, and have plenty of fun while married…</p>
<p>Educated professionals almost all end up married and their marriages are the most stable in society. According to thermo1 theory, they should be miserable and lonely while HS dropouts dominate.</p>
<p>It’s you. The sooner you admit that, the better (for you and for everyone here that’s sick of your topics).</p>
<p>I like how people think “approaching girls” is like the magic key. I’ve seen guys approach 30 girls and get shot down every time. I’ve seen guys approach 10 girls and get a number from every single one.</p>
<p>Yes, to a degree, it’s a numbers game. However, it’s much more about skill than anything else. Are you funny? Good looking? Interesting? Do you know how to talk to women? Do you know when a woman is feeling you?</p>
<p>You can only play the hand you’re dealt but at the very minimum you should be able to dress nice and be in shape. If you aren’t doing that you aren’t trying hard enough. And alcohol helps, a lot.</p>
<p>Build your own girlfriend.</p>
<p>Better yet, marry your high school sweetheart. </p>
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<p>I didn’t know this was a dating site. I thought it was for current and future student to ask questions/get feedback regarding different majors/careers.</p>
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<p>didnt you know? this is CC. anything can happen here</p>
<p>This is a funny thread. I emphathize some thermo…whoever you are. </p>
<p>I worked and then came back to grad school. There is a secret. Being a engineer with a Bachlors degree is a crappy job, and most woman who you’d ever want to date know it. Women aren’t so dumb…they only pretend to be dumb sometimes. Now that I’m back in grad school, I get hit on by woman who would never get near me once I was just some washed up guy who was an engineer</p>
<p>Go back to grad school and get a PhD. You’ll get woman. An Engineer with a PhD has a future, but an engineer with a Bachlors degree will be laid off after three or four years. Then they’ll go home and live with thier parents or take a bunch of horrible contracting jobs.</p>
<p>Seriously, these international engineering companies treat thier employees horribly…the ones with just the undergrad degree. They give you a six month honeymoon, and then the kick you in the azz.</p>
<p>Social skills help, but it’s not the main issue.</p>
<p>“You’ll get woman.” Blech.</p>
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<p>Join a coed gym. Women are there.</p>
<p>Jack63, that whole post is absolute bull*****. What kind of girl says “oh he is socially ■■■■■■■■ and creepy but he has a PhD and not a bachelors degree, gimme soma dat.”</p>
<p>Thermo–do you take care of your personal hygiene? I have heard that the super hard working “types” can sometimes forget to take care of personal issues. No stinky greasy hair? Clean clothes that have a little style? You don’t wear cologne to mask any other odors (that are permanently in your winter coat?</p>
<p>Sorry to be blunt but sometimes guys without lady friends can overlook the basics.</p>
<p>^ a couple of more things–do you have any athletic ability? Not that you have to be pro at anything but you’re not the type that weighs like 125 lbs are you? If so, bulk up a bit and get a few muscles. I’m not talking bodybuilder (ewh) but women like to feel that they’re not bigger than their man. Also, how are you with making friends with guys? If you’re having trouble in that department as well you may need to look at something a little more serious. Could you maybe have Aspergers syndrome (a type of autism that is very high functioning but has a little trouble reading social cues). You might try reading up on it.</p>
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<p>;) … Hey c’mon…it’s only 75% bs.</p>
<p>I will say that it is hard to be that successful with a bachelors degree in engineering. Most of the true spoils in the engineering field go to PhDs from my experience. </p>
<p>I once signed up for a dating service. The kind where they set you up with lots of dates…it helped with my social skill…not bad advice thermo. Anyway, saying “I’m an engineer” doesn’t help with woman. Some of my dates were actually quite comical. I went so far as to do a stand-comedy routine about the whole experience when it was over. I took a stand-up comedy class, and gave a routine at a bar somewhere. The audience really seemed to like it!</p>
<p>The problem is this. You’re going to speak to a woman about your job during a date, and crazy things come up. For example, I once told a woman that I’d been through three jobs in the last three years because the companies keep laying off entire depts or closing sites. The woman’s reaction was terrible. She looked horrified. She finally said that she once had another boyfriend who was an engineer who experienced the something similar, but that she couldn’t possibly understand…this sorta hints at the harsh 25% of what I said that is not bs.</p>
<p>The people who say it is you are right…but that doesn’t mean you can’t change yourself
Read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie it could change your life:</p>
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