<p>as many of you know I will be transferring to UCLA...I am concerned about peer pressure there to drink/smoke. I am very social, friendly blah blah blah and typically a very laid back person...but I do not smoke/drink nor do I plan to. Before anyone brings up religion, Im an atheist. It's a matter of principles. Should I be concerned? if yes, what would be the proper way to reject...I'm afraid it will make me look like I'm arrogant etc. etc.</p>
<p>simply restate your above reasoning. if they further question you, just ditch them.</p>
<p>if a group of people you begin hanging out with, think your arrogant for not wanting to smoke/drink...forget them...if they ask just be like 'i mean its cool, but for some reason it just doesn't appeal to me'</p>
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as many of you know I will be transferring to UCLA...I am concerned about peer pressure there to drink/smoke. I am very social, friendly blah blah blah and typically a very laid back person...but I do not smoke/drink nor do I plan to. Before anyone brings up religion, Im an atheist. It's a matter of principles. Should I be concerned? if yes, what would be the proper way to reject...I'm afraid it will make me look like I'm arrogant etc. etc.
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<p>You are creating demons that don't exist. I used to be quite the partier, but got bored with drinking. I will smoke a jack every now and then. There is no such thing as peer pressure. Like my friends will sometime ask me to drink repeatedly, but it doesn't really bother me. There is only peer pressure if you have weak resolve.</p>
<p>Don't get me wrong, I do my fair share of drinking, just not as much as the average college student. </p>
<p>I would suggest that if you are worried about it a lot, then just be the designated driver.</p>
<p>dont worry about it, you can uphold your principals and still have fun</p>
<p>Give hugs, not drugs.</p>
<p>man jus take the blunt and dont even think about it, get sky HIGH cuzzz. plus i heard ucla has some Grade-A Ganja. jk. yeah i doubt ull be pressured to do stuff u dont wanna do.</p>
<p>I don't understand how people can be preassured into such things, especially against their will...It just depends on how strong your character is and how far you will go to please others. It seems like you really dont want to drink or smoke so simply say no. No one ever said anything when I said "no"...</p>
<p>but then again I dont say no to many things :/</p>
<p>wow three posts a minute. </p>
<p>hot topic</p>
<p>It's not that hard to say no, and no one actually cares. I always thought it was ridiculous when people actually thought peer pressure was so horrible. Unless I was threatened to die or get serisouly injured or something, there would be no reason for me to feel obliged to ever say yes to drugs/drinking. </p>
<p>I've since said yes to both willingly (although not big on either), but I don't think it matters. Unless someone is an absolutely *******, no one will care, at whatever school you go to.</p>
<p>Nobody is going to make fun of you or give you a hard time if you don't smoke or drink. You might run into people who offer you these things just to be friendly or whatnot, just say "nah,it's cool" and that will probably be the end of it.</p>
<p>I've rejected since I was 12 yrs old. Just last week I was offered weed and alcohol. I haven't drank or smoke before and I'm 20. I never had the urge to drink and peer pressure doesn't work on me so eh. If you don't want to you just don't want to. It's a free country you can do what you want. And whatever friend laughs at you usually ends up being the dumbass that slacks off and fails anyways and thinks he's cool cause he drinks.</p>
<p>The only thing you need to re-think is the atheist part. Other than that you're good...</p>
<p>If you say no and they do care, then they're not worth your time because they can't respect your decisions.</p>
<p>Peer pressure is what weak people blame their issues on..sorry I just don't believe in doing something because someone else says so. Know what you believe (and what you don't) and stand by it. :)</p>
<p>PS ..College will be great practice for when you get a job and your coworkers (and boss) want you to go out drinking with them. Learn to connect with people on a different level and you will be fine.</p>
<p>just say "sorry man, i cant drink tonight, UCLA medical banned me from drinking cus my liver is sick"... it really did happen to my friend lol</p>
<p>sucks, ucla bant him from boozing :p</p>
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<p>Nonsense. </p>
<p>Of course most will not attempt to verbally coax one into drinking and doing drugs at this age if they do not show any interest in doing so. However, perhaps what Citan is worried about is the indirect methods of "peer pressure." When one is surrounded by their peers who are engaging in such activities -- they'll inevitably feel the desire to sympathize with these people in some way by engaging in their actions. And if they do not -- well, they're just the guy on the side not drinking.</p>
<p>Citan, I'm a straight-edger as well. Once again, not out of any religious beliefs but out of personal principle. I'm social and I do like to go out, connect intimately with people, blah blah -- but before I even entered college, I knew that as a non-drinker, smoker, I couldn't get involved with the party scene (could have something to do with attending "ZooMass," number one party school/highest violent crime rate in the nation). </p>
<p>So, Citan, if you've already made the decision to forego drugs and alcohol, it is clear that you're a person of higher thinking and reason. And I have to ask: would going to these parties really be conducive to your real interests? You've already realized that intoxication is a pointless endeavor. So why attend a party in which intoxication is often the very center of everything going on? You may be different. But I feel as though my presence is such situations is inevitably pointless, and would be much better spent elsewhere.</p>
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<p>Please, CC has been free of preachers for a long time, don't come on here trying to convert people.</p>
<p>I thought that was pretty subtle. It was a suggestion. Take it easy. Deep breaths O god of the CC message board, IamAPPREHENSIVE.</p>
<p>dont worry, no one actually WANTS to willingly share their drugs with you, trust me i know.</p>
<p>we offer you drugs as a sign of friendship, when you say no, we say "great more for us"</p>
<p>Not that i am a druggie or anything but i have been there and done that, and i can tell you for sure, that after the age of 16, no one really preassures you to drink or do drugs... people simply offer because they aassume you would enjoy them as much as they do.</p>
<p>You can just say no without giving any reasons for it..... no one will care any further than that.</p>