<p>I feel like a failure in life and dont know where to start. hopefully I can get some help/advice from what to do from here. so let me know if you need more info. im a junior in college and currently on academic probation but on the verge of suspension. this past summer, I was diagnosed with adhd and got accommodation. I never used them thought because I didn't think they were necessary. I just got meds. I took a summer class and dropped because they were going too fast. this semester, I started meds...adderall and ritalin, experimented with different does from doc.I have been part-time for the past couple semesters due to fin aid being cut. </p>
<p>ok now about this semester, I totally bombed my exams in 1 class that I had to get at least a B in to avoid suspension. I missed my last exam and could not find a spot. I never met my prof in office hors or got accomadations this semester. this semester has been a whole blur, went by fast and I felt like a robot, numb to most things (like grades)</p>
<p>I was just not my self this past semester like I came the wrong class, sat down and walked out a second later. It's not very likely I would pass because I wouldve needed a 100 to barely pass that class. But i think I need another semester to adjust to counseling and meds. Now that the class is over, I emailed the prof pretty much whats on here and also that I understsnad it's too late to do anything but is there anyway to get a incomplete or make up the exam and he said it cannot be done. </p>
<p>so that brings me here, is thee any possible way i get stay this semester besides appealing the coming suspension letter? any suggestions? I read somewhere here that I may be able to get past grades expunged at disability center? </p>
<p>also How do i approach my parents who pay for my tuition. They know about probation and adhd but dont know about meds and my likely suspension because I have been telling them "I am doing fine"</p>
<p>please no chastisement, I've beat myself over this several time the past few days</p>
<p>Hmmm… You are in tough situation that isn’t all that uncommon. Most students in your case simply drop out of college and pursue employment. This isn’t appropriate for everyone having difficulty in school, but it certainly is for some students. College isn’t right for everyone, and this might be true in your case.</p>
<p>If you’re committed to staying on the college track, you might want to take a year off from school and find employment (with the intent to return later). This could help you to clear your head and re-focus your goals. You could also take a course each semester at your local community college (to both repair your GPA and to open your eyes to an educational pace different than the one at the school you’re currently attending).</p>
<p>It’s easy to lose sight of your goals in your late teens and early twenties. It’s difficult to imagine that a college career can be started or re-visited in your late twenties or early thirties, but this might be best for you. You just need to keep an open mind and do what’s best for you.</p>
<p>First of all, don’t lose hope. All is not lost. </p>
<p>You could be my son, his story is nearly exactly like yours right down to the details. He withdrew for a year, and went back part time and that has made all the difference. Taking a year (and at the time, we didn’t know how long it would be, just that he couldn’t continue to shred himself into bits by flinging himself at school and hoping somehow it would work out this time) to work, recuperate, get treatment, was a big relief to us all. He enrolled in his university’s online campus, which relieved his panic attacks and issues with organization/overwhelmed with campus. </p>
<p>But to answer your question, this is how you tell your parents : “I have something awful to tell you. I know this is hard to hear. It’s hard for me to share it. But things are so much worse than I’ve told you. I didn’t want to let you down. I didn’t know how to cope. I didn’t know what to do. Can you help me figure out what’s best to do next? Can you forgive me for not telling you?” There will be shock, anger, concern, compassion, and hugs. All we wanted for our son was for him to be safe, be well, and find a course in life that suited him. I don’t really care about the money. I want with all my heart for you to have that too.</p>
<p>My son? Just finished his second term of a pair of classes and working p/t. Got a B in both classes <3 and work is going awesome. Next semester he’ll take 3 classes. Sometime he’ll graduate, but most important to us – he’s having success and happiness.</p>