<p>Thank you guys, i konw i screwed up really bad and i regret it, i am taking all of your advice, i am writing my letter now, i am going to hand diliever it at the opening of the addmissions office tomarrow morning, and i am goin got beg and plead to them and explain to them i really screwed up and that what happened in my senior year is definatly not anything i would let happen in my college career, i will definatly tell you what happenes, and please all of oyu who cared enough to help a stranger pray for me.</p>
<p>darsh, you've got prayers coming from me. Hope it works out and that the lesson has been learned without the result being so very harsh.</p>
<p>I think you have a good shot. The guy is going to either be thinking "This guy had better have a good reason", or "This guy had better have a good attitude." If it comes down to the end, ask if you can start freshman year on probation. If it is really coming down to the end, ask if you can start mid-year. A school loses a number of people after 1st semester and so they have slots open for 2nd semester. You might ask if you could redeem yourself by taking classes at a comm college or whatever in the Fall and then start during 2nd semester if things go well. Good luck.</p>
<p>Don't beg. There's lots of colleges out there. If they don't want you, warts and all, go somewhere else. Screw em.</p>
<p>What school did you go to?</p>
<p>No, do beg. When you first submit your apps, you dont want to beg because too many people are. The college just needs to find a reason to reject you, especially for a selective school like UNC, and begging makes you sound artificial.</p>
<p>But once you're suspended, the school needs a good reason to accept you again. Thus, you should have a good attitude going in, since you clearly dont have a good reason.</p>
<p>Perhaps I have a slightly diff. reaction to this. While I think it's important not to make excuses, explaining an unusual family circumstance or trauma will at least put the grades in context. The college wants to know what happened, & more importantly, whether it will happen again. There's a way to say it without sounding like you have no sense of responsibility. </p>
<p>Personally (speaking as an adult & if I were waiting to hear an explanation from a student), I would want to hear not just regrets, but what the regrets are about (more than just suspension, etc.). I would want to hear that you regret not having approached a teacher or the h.s. administration about sudden new situations or circumstances, that you regret not looking the facts in the face about having too much on your plate just before graduation, etc. (i.e., regretting not being realistic). If I heard that, I would be hopeful that should a similar surprise hit you as a college freshman, you would be prepared to face realities, confront them, & seek intervention, a change in your schedule, dropping a class if necessary, etc.</p>
<p>We all err and use bad judgment now & then. Regretting being in trouble is diff. from regretting missing an opportunity to rescue oneself. (So show now that you can rescue yourself in a mature fashion.) And being honest & self-evaluative is half of the rescue.</p>
<p>JMO. Perhaps others do not agree.</p>
<p>frenchbaroque: I think that the conversation went the way it did was that the OP didn't really seem to have a valid reason.</p>
<p>I agree with frenchbaroque. The emphasis should not only be that you are sorry, but that you have learned from the experience. The more that you can articulate what you have learned, the better. He has a lot of good advice about how you could have faced the problem and what to do next time. Everyone has trouble sometimes.</p>
<p>I agree with Dufus, as if UNC decides to take you in, your will probaly start out being on probation and having to meet with an academic counselor/first year dean until you can show them that you have turned things around.</p>
<p>Frenchbaroque is right in the fact that we all mess up. Take this for the learning lesson as it is. There is no shame in asking for help because no one is going to give you bonus points for suffering. Realize that even though you are going on to college, you are not in this alone. Everyone there really does have a vested interest in you succeeding. If you don't raise yoru hand, speak up no one can help you.</p>
<p>I have every confidence that you will prevail and be in school in the fall. I am also quite sure that you will go forward and do well. Beleive it or not once you come through this you will be able to encourage others or at least warn them that this situation can and does happen.</p>
<p>all the best.</p>