Advice for a depressed transfer?

<p>I'm just looking for advice from people who have transferred before or anyone who could offer some help.
I hat the school I'm at right now, I have very few friends and don't leave my room except to go to class or eat. Last semester was the same but I managed to suck it up and get a 4.0. But now I've be under a lot of stress including being homesick, hating where I am, and my mom making me question my choice to transfer.<br>
I've already been accepted to my first choice school but I feel like my grades are starting to slip and I feel wholly uninterested in doing homework and assignments. But I know grades are still important but I can't find the motivation to work! :(</p>

<p>Any tips on how to motivate myself?</p>

<p>Maybe you might want to study abroad for a semester. You should surround yourself with positive people, maybe you can join a service honors society. Try participating in Cancer walks, community service events, etc.</p>

<p>Remember that you’re not playing for midgame, but endgame. Even if you transfer, your GPA from your first school is still factored in; any graduate pursuits or further education will also hinge on your performance in the now. </p>

<p>That’s how I do it, at least. Keep reminding yourself that you play for the endgame, and that the end goal is the most important of all. Or you can approach it with a casual sense of arrogance - you’ve been accepted somewhere better, already performed better, and thus inadequacy is beneath your standards.</p>

<p>I’ve done that a few times.</p>

<p>consider the children in 3rd world countries who don’t have the opportunity to go to college and possibly get a 6 figure job at any point in there lives and maybe you’ll attain a new found appreciation for your present situation</p>

<p>Who needs motivation? Flipping burgers isn’t THAT bad of a future career ;).</p>

<p>you should seriously go out more…just to walk, volunteer at a non-stressful place, sit in the library, etc. you’ll feel better with some exercise and interactions with nice people.</p>

<p>“I hate the school I’m at right now”,
-Transfer</p>

<p>“I have very few friends and don’t leave my room except to go to class or eat”
-Be more social</p>

<p>“being homesick”
-You’re homesick because you’ve never left. Get involved in something/someone.</p>

<p>“and my mom making me question my choice to transfer”
-You’re complicating your situation. Figure out what you want and try to attain it.</p>

<p>“I’ve already been accepted to my first choice school but I feel like my grades are starting to slip and I feel wholly uninterested in doing homework and assignments”
-If you have the luxury of taking time off from school, I recommend doing so. It doesn’t sound like you’re studying anything that interests you. What a waste of your time.</p>

<p>If you can’t change your life in the previously stated ways, find a catalyst for change. Just start doing something differently in your life and see if it changes anything for the better. Bicycle instead of drive. Join a club. Throw out your computer. Get creative with it.</p>

<p>If none of this is doable, I recommend talking your mom into having an abortion.</p>

<p>Ha! I second the above post: You have a great deal of control over how you feel in an environment (barring clinical depression, of course), so exercise it! Be proactive in class/clubs/activities because it will allow you to assimilate into your new scene and meet people, which will bring far more meaning into your daily life and give you purpose. (Which will do wonders for your GPA, no joke.)</p>

<p>Thanks guys, all of your advice is awesome. I’ve tried a few like trying to get out of my room more and that really helped. Also a bad grade I got on a test helped me realized what I was doing to myself, lol. I guess I was just focusing so much on where I will be in august rather than focusing on where I am now. Work still feels like a chore, but at least I’m doing it now.</p>

<p>@nukewarm “If none of this is doable, I recommend talking your mom into having an abortion.” I have no idea what you meant by this but it made be laugh lol</p>

<p>^ I don’t know if this is what Nukewarm was alluding to, but this is what his comment reminded me of: [Unplanned</a> Parenthood - Clips - South Park Studios](<a href=“South Park - TV Series | South Park Studios US”>South Park - TV Series | South Park Studios US). That’s a clip from “Cartman’s Mom Is Still a Dirty Slut” (the second episode of the second season of South Park) when Cartman’s mom tries to abort him in the 40th trimester (40th trimester = 8 years old) :D.</p>