My mistake. This kid is going to graduate when he is 17.
I completely agree that 12 year old organizational skills are not always the best…and might emerge with guidance.
And I also agree that if he is working that hard, his grades should reflect this.
He is completing 7th grade right now. So…that would make him 12 years old…right? A 12 year old boy completing 7th grade work.
I still ask…why is he a grade ahead of kids his age. Knowing that info would help give the OP better advice.
OK I misread, I thought he was in 8th.
A November birthday who started kindy at 4, is 16 when they start 12th, 17 when they start college and they turn 18 shortly after. That was normal in Ca until a few years ago.
Maybe this is just too regional. In our area, unless parents have held them back, Kindergarten starts at 5 which means they are 12-year-olds in 7th grade. Some will start turning 13 but those summer babies (and Fall babies with the old cut-off dates) will be 12 right up to the end. No grade skipping. Just naturally on the young side. Only the OP can answer for sure but I think he’s exactly where he’s supposed to be based of the age cut-offs in her state.
I have a kid who was a semester ‘young’ for her grade. She did start earlier that others in her K, and when we moved to California was only a few weeks younger than those who had made the fall (Dec 1) cut off, but there weren’t many of those. Most of her classmates were 14 before starting high school, many already 15. She was young. Then she was young (17) when she started college.
And now she’s young when graduating from college, at 21. She has a lot of life to organize right now - starting a job, picking insurance, figuring out taxes and a 401k plan, moving and renting an apartment, buying a car and insurance, etc. Would being 22 at college graduation have been a magic formula for handling all these things? No, but I’m watching her sister and cousin do it and it does seem a little less stressful for them.
If it were me, I’d have him repeat 7th grade, really master the material. My daughter didn’t repeat 8th grade (wish she would have) but did repeat algebra. We both think it was the best decision ever (and it was her decision, she felt her teacher in 8th grade didn’t do a good job even though she received an A for a grade). Yes, that meant she didn’t take calculus in high school, but her math was solid and she got an A in it in college, even though about 2/3 of the class had taken it in high school (STEM college).