<p>Hey, I don’t have any advice for you either, but I just want to say I really admire your commitment to your values in the face of the forum haterz. It’s so hard to find people these days who don’t think abstinence is for losers… </p>
<p>Hope things work out for you :)</p>
<p>I agree with clichedanomaly. It kinda sucks that as soon as someone opens their mouth and says something slightly conservative, they are immediately attacked.</p>
<p>And my advice is to set one day a week aside for each other. Make every Friday or Saturday date night. Save the other days to spend with your friends. </p>
<p>Good luck! (… especially at Brown haha)</p>
<p>if you make it, you make it. if you don’t, you don’t. it’s not the end of the world. there are plenty of other hotties in college, i swear. one main piece of advice:
MAKE FRIENDS. do NOT spend 24/7 together. Make friends who you didn’t know before!</p>
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<p>lol … what a naive statement</p>
<p>Thanks everyone who recently posted. I’m glad that some people my generation understood. 
The parent forum was really “gung ho” about my conservatism. Haha!</p>
<p>There have been numerous studies (I can think of at least 3) done after the Rutgers one that proved that cohabiting has no effect on long-term relationships, but rather that the people broke up either way. Rutgers has been criticized for assuming that any relationship would have worked. Honestly, it depends on the couple and what’s right for them. And if this is what’s right for you guys, go for it! But I just wanted to set that record straight.</p>
<p>Secondly, as for keeping the relationship going…don’t get too attached. Have your own friends, let him have his (even if they’re girls). Have nights out with your girlfriends. Get involved in different clubs (and maybe some of the same ones). Pursue what interests you. If you two DO end up growing apart, it’s ok, you’ve probably just both changed, and there is nothing wrong with that. Don’t try to stop the change, because you’ll both be surprised at what can come of it, and you two may change in the same direction. Still spend lots of time together though, and don’t forget to go on a date now and then! HAVE FUN.</p>
<p>I too am in the same situation, only I’m simply moving to my Boyfriend’s city. We won’t be living together (though we will later, since we’ve been long distance, and really need to “test drive” our long-term living compatibility) and I plan to grow into my own individual, but still be around him a lot of the time. So, good luck!</p>
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<p>LOL. As far as I’m concerned, the people in the Parent section are gung ho about everything.</p>
<p>Good luck on your decision.</p>
<p>All these studies aside, one of you is probably going to end up cheating. The high school sweetheart thing tends to fade away rather quickly when you go to college and meet tons of new people. Just don’t be surprised if it happens. If anything, it’s probably a good idea to date other people so you can see what you REALLY want in a relationship. Life changes a lot after high school and don’t be surprised if the “man of your dreams” at the time of your high school graduation is not conferred the same title upon your college graduation.</p>
<p>I don’t know of any college that would allow a male and female to room together freshman year, so how did this conversation turn into couples living together before marraige? Have a seperate group of friends, don’t act like a married couple and realize a lot of relationships go through trials in college. It really depends on what type of couple you are, if you do most things together, college could be rough. if you have a lot of mutual friends at college, it can be really great. However, relationships seem to work best if each person has their own group, cuts down on drama and means you have backup options if there is tension or he bails on plans. As long as you realize you might breakup, it should be fine.</p>