Advice for someone unhappy with current university

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I am so sorry to hear that. It truly breaks my heart. I have a special needs child. He’s far more profoundly affected than you are but as a parent, I’m so baffled to hear that kind of reaction. I seek the best for all of my children - the nuerotypical two and the one with disabilities. That’s my job. To do what’s best for my kids. To be blind of their best interests, their needs as individuals - it’s kind of incomprehensible to me.

Is there perhaps a local association that aids adults with Aspergers/High Functioning Autism that might be able to guide you in what steps to take? I don’t know your area well at all but there has to be some organization that can help you navigate this crossroads.

I truly think that you need an advocate of some sort who can work with you on your specific needs. If your university can not provide one, perhaps they can provide a reference to someone who can help?

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Hello, I am sympathetic to your story. I have a daughter facing some similar issues. I would be hesitant to give up the full-tuition scholarship that you have. It sounds to me that many of the issues you face, you are going to face wherever you are. What I think it seems you are missing is that 1 person who needs to take you under their wing, needs to be a friend & mentor to you, and that could make all the difference for you. Is there some kind of office for disabilities, or academic support, where you might find that mentor you need? If the people you have worked with so far aren’t the right fit for you, please ask if you can try meeting with someone else. I wish you some good rest, good food, and a peaceful mind as you face these big decisions.