Advice Please: Narrowing Colleges

<p>sounds like you really love your daughter! and she seems like a great kid. just wanted to re-iterate a point i read somewhere on this thread: who she is as a sophomore might not be who she is as a senior. </p>

<p>as a senior going through the waiting stages of hearing back from colleges re: financial aid and scholarships, i know what she's going to be going through in the next few years. it's a stressful time for sure...applications are like a job in themselves!</p>

<p>i can very confidently say that the girl i was 2 years ago is barely reminiscent of who i am now. seems to me that kids do a TON of growing up toward the end of high school, so it's good that you're giving her a chance to do so. </p>

<p>i never did college visits. i remember asking my college advisor (a really adorable very conservative Indian woman) about her experiences visiting colleges with her daughter. she mentioned that they didn't visit until her kids had already gotten in; in their minds, why fall in love with a school you can't go to? for whatever reason that really clicked for me, so i did a bunch of research on various schools and applied to a big state school, a big out of state top 25 school, a amaller top 25, and a small liberal arts. so far it's worked out well; it's such a rush to go visit a school that i can really go to! this might not work out with your daughter, but it's just a thought.</p>

<p>Last year a kid at my son's HS turned down both Harvard and MIT for big money at RPI. Kid is happy. Parents are even happier.</p>

<p>Every kid is different. Some will become successful only in a good environment. Other will be successful no matter where he/she ends up.</p>