<p>Hi, I'm 21 female and I am moving away from home to a bigger city, both for college and a better job. The only listing left that fits my needs is a 26 yr old guy, who recently walked for his diploma, and a guy who lives in the downstairs bedroom of the townhouse, who is in his late 30s. I will be across the 2nd story hall from the 26 yr old guy. Apparently we have a lot in common, but I am still away from home and very scared. I've also faced some sexual harassment when I was underage. </p>
<p>I told the roommate my concerns and he was sympathetic, and always very nice. He also said the older roommate is rarely there. How should I confront/sort my social fears? I plan on calling him tomorrow to confirm my move-- I haven't talked to him but through email for the past few days. The townhouse is in crime-free housing and requires a credit check, plus the guy is a graduate from a private/expensive school and drives a pricey car. The rent is fair, and the 26 yr old is even willing to help me move. I appreciate any support.</p>
<p>I’m not sure, do townhouses have separate facilities for all residents? If so, there should be no problem. I’m assuming there’s also a lock on your door, even if they’re only good for peace of mind rather than actual protection.</p>
<p>Generally speaking though, using visible wealth as a judge of character is a VERY bad idea. The well-off callous *******s I know are much more sly about it than the poorer ones, and are more dangerous in that sense.</p>
<p>Because of your pre-existing fears, I worry that you would be setting yourself up for a potentially unsafe situation. IF someone was going to do something, your insecurities would make you an easy target.</p>
<p>Will he provide you with 2-3 personal character references? Does he have friends or sisters nearby who will speak to you and ease your fears before you make the commitment?</p>
<p>I’m a parent, and here’s what I think: there’s nothing wrong being a female who lives with 2 guys. My own 24 year old daughter is doing just that while attending grad school in Washington DC - and she’s very happy. Guys often make great roommates for young women: less drama, even if they’re sometimes sloppier </p>
<p>But my advice would be to meet at least the guy who’s closer to your age before you commit to anything. I know that complicates things, but there’s nothing like meeting someone face to face to discuss living arrangements. It’s really the only way to get that valuable ‘gut feeing’ what his expectations/life style is.</p>
<p>Find something else. Always go with your instinct especially if you are feeling afraid. There has to be another apartment in this city that is either with a female roommate or single. </p>
<p>Never put yourself if a position that you are uncomfortable with. Of course there is a good chance nothing will happen, but really why risk it. You are too young and shouldn’t be concerned with something like this.</p>
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