<p>^^^I agree with you… My D’s friend’s parents hosted an all night after prom party at thier house. There was no alcohol and the girls slept upstairs and the boys downstairs…although D said they really only got about 1 hour of sleep. They then all went to another friend’s lake house for the rest of the weekend. My H and I were one of three couples that chaperroned. It was a lovely weekend for all of them! D told me about many parties that were going on where the parents did provide alcohol… I could not believe that those parents were that (forgive me) STUPID…I truly wonder what people are thinking these days. I think D and her group of friends were probably relieved that they didn’t have to worry about being in awkward situatuions. It was just good, clean, fun for them!</p>
<p>All of the proms that my sons attended had afterprom parties and activities that were arranged by parents and heavily attended by them. In fact, more than half the parents of the kids were there. That took care of a lot of potential trouble.</p>
<p>My HS had “unsponsored” after proms…which all of my friends and I skipped out on. As girls, we rather liked the idea of a Indian food buffet and endless sundaes and movie marathon. One girl in our group hosted at her house (projection screen!) Her little brother ate with us and then was sent up to bed. The parents also hid upstairs while we totally pigged out downstairs in the living room. No sleep. 5 movies straight, including Casino Royale with Daniel Craig. One of the best nights that I can remember.</p>
<p>Best part: Absolutely no regrets. Only pure FUN and awesome memories!</p>
<p>My high school had a sponsored after-prom party, but almost no one went because it wasn’t all that much fun. Most kids split off to their own parties to do whatever they felt comfortable with. </p>
<p>I had a great time. If a kid is smart about it, all those things you parents are worrying about can make for awesome high school memories.</p>
<p>Our HS’s (PTA?) sponsors an after-prom night for this school and another local school. They go out and get prizes (some quite nice) and at the end of the evening (about 6:00 a.m.) they give away a car to a senior and something nice ($$??) to a junior. But, you have to be there when they do the drawing. They are not allowed to come and go (and then come back). They have casinos set up and lots of silly games. Parents are there to hand out prizes, provide food and drink and to run the games. The year I went (as a parent), I was one of several photographers who would wander around and take pictures of groups of friends. Because it was digital, there was a booth where the photos were constantly being displayed and the kids were free to take a picture. I think that I saw all of my son’s friends there at least for a good part of the “evening”.</p>
<p>OTOH, I have a good friend on the East Coast who’s daughter announced that there were two after-prom parties, the drinking one and the drug one, and therefore, would they be interested in having a co-ed sleepover? They agreed upon the condition that they would turn over their keys, there would be no alcohol or smoking, and that they could wander down to the rec room whenever they felt the need. He reported that the partyers were well-behaved, but he did have to confiscate some alcohol (some of which he reported was quite good). When a few of the kids asked the next day if they could have it back, he told them he would be happy to give it to their parents. I think he ended up a few fifths richer.</p>
<p>Apparently groups of kids at our hs go to stay in rental homes on a lake in a nearby state. Uh…no. Sometimes I feel like I’m the only overprotective parent here. Does this seem bad to anybody else? Luckily, a family offered their local home for movies, swimming and hot tub activities after the prom. Thank you!!!</p>
<p>My neighbor organized an after-prom activity at the local health club. Many of the kids in the group of 16-20 had family memberships, and the health club is open 24 hours/7 days a week. (Non-members used guest passes). I know she said the kids played hoops, went swimming, hung out in the hot tub; their were no cars since the limo and dropped them off (after stopping at one house to change clothes), and parents picked up exhausted kids at 6 a.m. Sounded like a fun, safe alternative and no one had to be the ‘host’.</p>
<p>^ Nice idea with the gym!</p>
<p>I have never heard of a parent/school sponsored after prom event here. Mostly people go out to rented hotels/warehouses to party.</p>
<p>Last year, in late spring I offered the hospitality of my house to my son and a small group of friends for the post-prom party. The idea of a co-ed sleep was new to me; but I knew I could control the environment and the kids knew me. We all met at another parents house for the pre-prom pictures, waved the kids off in the limos and then parents gave me their contributions: fruit salad for breakfast, lemon cake for when they got back to my house; dips and chips, etc. I had made ahead of time two breakfast casseroles: a french toast one and a chicken sausage strata.
I lined the front lawn with tiki torches and a faux grass carpet and designated my home office for the girls to change, and my son’s room for the boys to change.
It was like something out of an old fashioned romantic movie to see the kids dropped off around 2am and walking up my driveway illuminated by the limos’ lights.
When all 14 were assembled, I gave them my speech: No drugs, no alchohol, no inappropriate behavior. After changing they were all to stay in my 15 by 30 foot family room, with me reading in the adjacent living room. My main level has an open floor plan, the only door is to the bathroom. They were so happy to be together and have a firm line drawn in the sand. They changed, rehydrated with water, snapple, gatorade, had snacks, watched movies, and then fell asleep.
I served them a sit down breakfast in my dining room.
I would do it again in a heart beat. They respected me, my home, my rules, and each other.</p>
<p>I’m going to an unsupervised afterprom party at a friend’s country house. There’s a bus taking people there from prom. There will be some alcohol, and my parents are ok with that. We are all 18. We have all had alcohol before. If your kid is 18 I can all but guarantee you they have too. We’re all going away to college in a few months, where we WILL be confronted with alcohol around every corner. Pretending that that isn’t the case is just naive. If my school tried to sponsor an afterprom party, or some parent tried to organize a supervised afterprom, I can guarantee you nobody would go. No offense, but a lot of you guys sound like you’re organizing a slumber party for a 12th birthday.</p>
<p>The PTA sponsors an All-Night Party at the local indoor sports arena after the prom is over. Games, music, dancing, silly events etc. Dozens of prizes are donated by businesses and are given away all night long. No cars are given away unfortunately, but the winners can pick stuff like televisions, xboxes, Wii’s, cell phones, or travel certificates from a list of items worth around $500 each. A co-worker told me her son won a prize at the prom last week and presented it to her on Mothers Day. He knew it was something that she always wanted. That’s a great son!</p>
<p>The tradition is we bring the couples to a home pre-prom for photos etc., and then, after the All-Night Party, everyone returns around 6 am to the same home and crashes until noon or so. We all know where they are all night and the kids have a ball.</p>
<p>Hey Jackpot, tell that to all the hundreds of AfterProm events that host thousands of 17-18 year olds each year. It may not be for everyone but I can guarantee YOU that thousands of kids have a great time/safe time/non-alcoholic time going. </p>
<p>You have your whole life after 21 to drink when it’s legal. To me, it’s a shame not only that you can’t wait and accept that as ok, but that your parents do too.</p>
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<p>This is just wrong. I honestly cannot understand what would compel someone to say something like this (or everyone has tried drugs, cut class, had sex, etc.).</p>
<p>well since i live so close to new york city, usually we buy tickets to “after prom” events at nightclubs for about 40-45 each. sometimes people rent a boat to go around the new york harbor but it’s usually not a great idea considering the drunken idiots at my school</p>
<p>i almost wish my school sponsered an after prom, last year the class president got alcohol poisoning at a private after-prom and needed to go the hospital. it’s just really expensive to have the limo all night/go to the city.</p>
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<p>You may not like it, but it’s a very true statement. Out of the top 5% of my graduating class, I KNOW for a fact that 17 have gotten drunk before. In my group of friends,(all good, smart kids) all of us have drank underage. Read the statistics</p>
<p>[SADD</a> Statistics](<a href=“http://www.sadd.org/stats.htm#underage]SADD”>http://www.sadd.org/stats.htm#underage)</p>
<p>75% of kids will have seriously drank before leaving high school…That’s a pretty sizeable majority</p>
<p>^Sizable majority but not all the kids.</p>
<p>My D and her friends went to main event and went bowling. My favorite prom pics are of the girls in their prom dresses wearing their bowling shoes. Very stylish! They had a great time.</p>
<p>My sons have gone to summer homes for after prom weekends. Heavily parental supervision. I was at one of them. Guys slept in one area, the girls in another. Didn’t see any signs of drugs, alcohol, risky behavior. Everyone had a great time.</p>
<p>It’s a danged shame some folks can’t have fun without breaking the law.</p>
<p>I don’t drink or do drugs. However, I’d say that the vast majority of teens these days have seriously partaken in such activities–to the ignorance and surprise of the adults in these kids’ lives. Kids find a way, even if you don’t want them to.</p>
<p>That doesn’t mean that adults should condone or facilitate such activities. But pretending that it only takes place among the “popular crowd” (such that the phenomenon even exists anymore) or simply assuming that your good little kid has never done it before is unrealistic, as is the puritanical, zero-tolerance prohibition against such things.</p>
<p>Moreover, there’s not much wrong with having guys and girls sleeping in the same room, as long as it’s more than one guy and one girl. Nobody’s going to have sex with their friends snoring 5 feet away! :-)</p>