<p>Here's the deal, i've been in my first semester of college in Pace University (new york) for one month and i haven't met ANYONE. Keep in mind that i commute and don't live in the dorms so its much harder for me to meet people, and the classes in this school are of about 20 people max. So meeting people is a lot harder specially if everyone already has their social circles developed. </p>
<p>I've been here, in NY for about 6 months and the 5 months i spent looking for a job i never met anyone. So basically, i've been here for 6 months and have only hung out with my cousins in New Jersey almost every weekend.</p>
<p>Any tips besides, joining clubs? I mean i would join clubs and stuff like that, but i honestly don't know what to join, Greek life seems a little to "jock" for me, i'm a much more relaxed, laid back 420 type of person.</p>
<p>Well then I dont know how you can complain about it. You were aware that it would be tougher to meet kids by commuting. Living in dorms is the easiest way to meet people. Plain and simple.</p>
<p>I can't live in the dorms, it's a long story, but i'm living with my brother in a small apartment in Brooklyn, just asking for any other opinions on what to do.</p>
<p>Dude, I feel your pain - I go to NYU, another city school with basically no campus, no real community feel - it's like a commuter school with dorms. I also commute, 50-60 mins away, from Long Island (there's no way I can live on campus). To make things worse, my parents are really strict Muslim fundamentalists who are beyond strict, more so because I'm a girl, and actually I can't even explain to you how strict and crazy my mom is. Needless to say, it was also really hard for me to meet people since I live almost an hour away and my parents are so strict and try to control me constantly. But I still managed to make friends, mainly through classes and clubs.</p>
<p>it's harder to make friends in our position, but still possible - my college has tons of interesting clubs, i'll bet yours does too, and it's a chance for you to meet people with similar interests. Try to be really outgoing as well, I understand it's hard if you're a quiet person (I kind of am) but you'll need to get over that and be extra friendly, since most freshman dorm and make friends that way. Also, since your classes are small, it should give you a chance to get closer to some kids in your classes, right? I met my best friend in a class first semester. Once you have even 1-3 friends, they'll introduce you to their friends, and then you'll have a group to hang out with, you can hang out in their dorms, go to parties with them, etc. Plus Brooklyn is pretty close so it's not much to worry about - lots of kids in my college move out to Brooklyn after frosh year. </p>
<p>Diontechristmas - Look, most of us commuters would love to live in a dorm as well like you guys, but we can't for whatever reason, so instead of pointing out the obvious, let's try to be helpful.</p>
<p>Hey, thanks stargazerlilies, sorry to hear you have to live so far away! But i'm glad to see that you're in a similar situation and still made it. Maybe i'm being too desperate, i've only been in school for one month but, its just looking at everyone hang out that makes me feel a little left out. Don't get me wrong i'm very outgoing to be honest, and i've made some acquaintances but nothing more. We'll see if by the end of this semester things change. Patience i guess..</p>
<p>It takes time to make connections with people. I moved to Seattle seven months ago and I just now got to know two coworkers that became my friends. Building friendships take time. Eventually you'll click with someone at your school, whether it be in class or at a club.</p>
<p>I commuted 45 minutes when I was first enrolled in college. I made maybe three friends my first year, all of which lived on campus. I'm a very quite person so my opportunities to make friends are somewhat limited. People will approach to you regardless.</p>
<p>Join any clubs that interest you at all. You don't have to know perfectly which clubs would be most pleasing to you. Try some clubs out, and then stick with the ones you enjoy. Try out some clubs that are involved in things that you didn't do in high school, too. Don't confine yourself to clubs that are similar to things you've done before.</p>
<p>I want to echo what stargazer said. As cliche as it sounds, find something you're passionate about whether it's sports, math, music, religion, etc. and join a club for it. I know that because you live so far away, it will be harder to make some of the meetings, but give it your best shot and take advantage of every opportunity to meet new people! </p>
<p>diontechristmas: It's pretty damn ignorant to think living on campus would alleviate all of the OP's struggles. Truthfully, your posts in this thread are beyond worthless.</p>
<p>I know a few commuters and they identify with your woes. They find it difficult to make friends because they don't live here. However, they told me the key was to make plans and be extra active in the college environment. If you meet someone you would like to know more have plans to eat lunch with them. You can't expect people in college to take the initiative to get to know people. You have to make an extra effort to step out of your comfort zone and talk to people.</p>