<p>I've enrolled and got accepted to AU. At first I was looking forward to going there, and I still find that it is an excellent school, but now I'm starting to have second thoughts. I recently went to Cleveland and loved it there. The campus felt so home-y and comfortable for me.
I'm sort of nervous to bring this matter up to my mother and father, because they've already spent money on the enrollment and set up an orientation date.
I feel bad, but for some reason, my mind has suddenly changed.
How do I tell my parents this without them getting upset?
Should I try paying them back for the enrollment fee?
Any suggestions would be appreciated...
Or maybe talking to someone who's going through the same situation =/</p>
<p>This is completely normal with any big (or even some smaller) decisions you make in life. Unless something changes dramatically to change how you originally felt about the school, I would suggest that you stick with it and attend and then see if you really like it or not. Nerves are completely normal, but if you let them take over, you may regret it.</p>
<p>I suppose you're right in a way. I'm not sure if Akron will be good for me though. I gave it some thought and I'm usually in Cleveland for shows or such things.
I suppose I could try it for maybe a semester and then transfer.
Thank you for the advice =]
It really i appreciated</p>
<p>I would still love other people's opinions however. The more replies and input, maybe the more help I'll have in choosing a direction.</p>
<p>Visit AU again to see if you still like it. If you decide to switch to Cleveland, repay your parents any money that they've invested in AU that they won't get back.</p>
<p>i think ill visit both again
i just hope its not to late
i feel horrible taking so much time deciding
but i skipped a grade so im doing everything pretty late
thanks for the advice =]</p>
<p>IMO it's best to take your time making your decision -- waiting until the date you must accept or decline (May 1?). More than likely, this is the biggest decision of your life so far, so it's good to take the time to thoroughly examine your options.</p>
<p>Then, once you make the decision, stick with it. Expect some rough spots first semester. This is something virtually everyone goes through as they adjust to a new environment. If things don't work out by the middle of second semester, consider transferring, but I don't suggest making such a decision first semester because you need to give yourself time to settle in.</p>
<p>I think I may apply to CSU and just use my own money for the fee
then maybe take a trip there this weekend and check it out
possibly hit up akron too
I'll talk about this with my parents
I wish I wouldn't have been forced to rush into making this decision
I just started looking and applying in january
its a scary thing
but im sure everything will work out
if im forced to go to akron first semester
i could always transfer
i jsut dread having to change schools halfway through the year when i could just start out somewhere i like.</p>
<p>Stay a full school year before transferring. Many students don't adjust to college until midway through the second semester. It's a big step to be in college, meeting new people, making new friends, being responsible for your own schedule, etc. Leaving after one semester may be jumping from the frying pan into the fire if one's concerns were due to the kind of adjustment problems that students experience everywhere, no matter how good a match a college is for them.</p>
<p>shelby,
Try writing about it. Sorry if that sounds corny, but it can really help. You don't have to do a formal list of pros and cons, just sit down and write about what you're feeling. You're going through a stressful time and writing things down can help to organize your thoughts and just to get everything out.
Also, I think you'll feel better once you mention this to your parents. Having all of these thoughts spinning around and wondering how they'll react can really add to the stress.
Remember, there is more than one perfect school for everyone. My guess without knowing you is that you'll be fine at either place.
Best of luck and keep us posted! Remember you're not in this alone. :)</p>
<p>if your gut is telling you something, i say to trust it...and talk to your parents...the amount of $ we are talking about here, in the grand scheme of things is a fraction of what it would take if you hate it and want to transfer</p>
<p>Its easy to switch orientation dates, and the deposit, well, that might be gone, but you could pay them back, I think if they see how important this is to you and that you haven't come to this realization lightly, and understand the consequnces, the $, etc, I think your parents will be more understanding then you think they will</p>
<p>You have nothing to lose by being honest with them...</p>
<p>I attempted to talk to my mother about it, but her friends were around so I couldn't really get a word in
I think I'm going to ask her if I could visit Cleveland and see what it's like.
The point about the money it would take to transfer is an amazing point and I'll definitly be bring that one up so thank you!</p>
<p>Thanks to everyone who's been helping. Everyone has awesome suggestions.
I'll update as soon as I talk to the parents about this one!</p>