<p>Andover vs Exeter</p>
<p>Full Disclosure-My daughter applied to only Andover and Exeter, was accepted by both with virtually identical financial aid packages, and has decided to attend Andover. Back in my day (mid 60's), I think Exeter had a slight edge in (social) prestige, but that now seems to have been reversed with Andover enjoying a very small (academic) edge. Whatever the edge is, it's very small. Clearly, both schools provide simply outstanding environments in which to learn and to grow, and to expand one's horizons. The student bodies seem very similar in terms of ability and diversity. The quality of facilities and faculty is a push. But these schools have quite different feels. After a lot of agonizing, my daughter chose Andover, because it seemed a slightly better fit for her personally-but it was a very difficult and stressful call. For others Exeter would be a better fit.</p>
<p>On the subject of why does Andover try harder, and does it try <em>too</em> hard, these are my personal thoughts. In the months leading up to March 10th, I found myself surprised to be leaning towards Exeter, despite a strong beginning bias for Andover, because of the periodic (but not overly done) series of emails and other contacts from Exeter that made you feel they really were interested in you. But that dynamic changed abruptly on and after March 10th. Considering that Andover and Exeter have many cross-applicants, and compete fiercely for the same top students, I found the disadvantages that Exeter imposed on itself astonishing. Most significantly, Andover's package arrived early on Saturday, March 10th, while Exeter's arrived on the doorstep of an empty house with an anti-climactic thud the afternoon of Monday March 12th. My daughter did not see it till late afternoon after a long day at school and when her parents were both still at work. Then came dinner and homework. Why give your arch competitor an entire weekend for the family and friends of an admitted student to pore over your rival's beautifully packaged admissions materials, form an emotional bond, and luxuriate in the joy, relief and, yes, gratitude of having been admitted after a long and grueling process? Inexplicable. Simply inexplicable, to anyone who's ever had anything to do with (to put it crassly) sales. Compounding this very significant error, Exeter had no link on its website for admitted students! It was hard to even find the revisits link! Contrast that with Andover's warm and fuzzy "Congratulations to Newly Admitted Students!" link, and a series of mailings and emailings of highly effective DVDs and letters (only palely matched by Exeter) that made you feel they REALLY wanted you. Again, simply astonishing.</p>
<p>On a strictly unemotional analytic level, the post-admissions hoopla should not form the basis for making a choice between the two schools. But in the real world, emotions matter, and sometimes they matter a lot. Note to Exeter: you're communicating with 13 and 14-year olds! Andover's well-timed post-admissions blitz may give Andover an often decisive edge. I think Exeter needs to rethink its process, on which it obviously expends a great deal of time, energy, thought and money, so as not to gratuitously hobble itself in the final laps of the race. That said, I don't <em>think</em> it ultimately affected our choice. But I can't be sure. Just my thoughts.</p>