<p>I'm not the one to be involved with annoying drama between friends, but I'm getting really annoyed by my best friend. Basically she never talks to me or asks me to hangout unless I'm the one who is initiating it. Like she doesn't even text me to tell me anything unless I text her first. </p>
<p>I've put up with it for the last three years, but now it's summer and we have a lot more time, but sometimes it's so annoying because we can't just hang out like friends normally do. Everything with her has to be planned, she goes to bed at like 10, and she always has to be home by 6 for dinner, which is fine, but she just puts sooo many time limits on everything. I can never just call her to come over and just hang out at home or go to the beach or whatever. And it's not her parents that tell her she has to be home, she just wants to. </p>
<p>I'm sick of the being the one that always has to ask her to do stuff, or start talking to her first, I don't think friendships should be like that. I don't think she has ever asked me to come over or hang out with her, it's always me, so sometimes I kinda doubt her intentions. I haven't texted her or called her for awhile to see if she would actually want to talk to me first, but it's been almost a week.</p>
<p>Should I talk to her about this, or just continue to be the one who initiates everything?</p>
<p>Sorry if this sounds immature, but I've never really fought with friends so I don't know what it's like lol.</p>
<p>A bunch of my friends are like this too. They are introverted and selfish and they ALWAYS WHINE AND GOSSIP. They would all rather text and such than engage in a face to face conversation. It’s ridiculous. I have three friends (not including myself) who actually initiate anything, the rest are just awful. I don’t know why I’m friends with them.</p>
<p>And you’re complaining about it now? After three years?</p>
<p>The question you have to ask yourself: is she really my best friend? Best friends are usually mutually accepting of this relationship and in your case, it seems rather one-sided. </p>
<p>To answer your questions: no, you shouldn’t talk to her and no, you shouldn’t continue to initiate everything. It wouldn’t be fair to confront her and blame her. After all, if you haven’t liked her behavior for the past three years, you are the one to blame for clinging on. From what I’ve read she’s tried to move on and politely ignore you but you are persistent. Have you ever thought of the idea that she doesn’t consider you a best friend?</p>
<p>However, if you truly believe this is a fight in a “best friend” relationship, confront her. Tell her your feelings and ask for some respect. And whatever you do, don’t attack her with examples of events in the past three years. Be general, because if you get specific she’s going to feel offended. But in my belief and all likelihood, I think she’s trying to break up the friendship. And honestly, it’s not a big deal. You’ll meet a lot more friends that become best friends. You’re crazy if you just think you’re going to have one in your entire life.</p>
<p>It’s her parents & I bet $100 that she has strict, overbearing Asian parents. I don’t think she can really help it considering she’s been raised in such an environment.</p>
<p>Some people are less friendship-needy than others. Your friend is a definite type, I’ve met a lot like her. They all exist in a state of emotionally stable, blissfully mundane freakishness, free from the hormonal mess and social drama of high school life…you seem normal. She does not. The two of you aren’t compatible.</p>
And yeah she does that with everyone, but I’m really the only person she hangs out with outside of school.</p>