<p>POIH~I'm sure no one is insinuating that your child is "underqualified" or discouraging him from applying to any Ivies. You definitely need to lighten up a little bit! I've been through this twice, and now am steeling myself for our last child, who is a junior. </p>
<p>You do not need a particular PSAT score to be qualified for the Ivies. Depending on what state you live in your child may be a National Merit Semi-Finalist. S2 (our junior) scored higher in the 99th Percentile on the PSAT, but we live in an area where the National Merit cutoff score is one of the highest in the country, so he will not be a semi-finalist. That doesn't mean he's not qualified for one of the Ivies (although he actually isn't interested in any of them anyway!) Being a National Merit Semi-Finalist does look good to any college, but it is not going to make or break a student's chances of getting in.</p>
<p>Also--remember--the colleges do not see what the PSAT score is. They ask the College Board to give them the student information for anyone who checked off the box that allows for that. The College Board does let them know who scored in what ranges (ie: 99th %ile, over 200, over 175, etc. They can break it down in whatever way they like) but they do not release the actual scores to the colleges. The colleges use that information to market themselves to the students. Their goal is to encourage as many applications as possible for several reasons. The application money helps them pay for all the marketing and they want a large pool from which they make their admissions decisions. They know that the more applicants, the more selective they can be. If they are more selective it is likely that their admissions numbers will get a boost, making them appear harder to get into the next time around. Harvard loves to boast about how many valedictorians they turn away! </p>
<p>Getting into the Ivies requires excellent grades, scores, superior talent in a particular area or serious connections. You could have everything, and still not get in. There are countless stories out there (and on this discussion board) of students who had x, y and z and didn't get into any of their top choices--for no reason that anyone can figure. It is a crapshoot. If your child is a junior then you need to look at his numbers, encourage him to continue to get the best grades possible, in the hardest courses he can handle, and prep for the real SAT or ACT if he hasn't taken it already. He can take those tests again if he doesn't do as well as he'd like the first time. The colleges will take the highest combined score, even if it wasn't at the same sitting.</p>
<p>Most importantly you need to listen to your child. What does he want out of college? Does he have a field of interest, a particular passion he wants to pursue? Is he interested in the Ivies, or is that what you want for him? There are some big difference in some of those schools--find out what they are! Meet with his college counselor to see whether his aspirations (and yours) are realistic. You can request information from any college in the country and they will be happy to send it to you, and give you passwords, etc. You can visit any school in the country, too. It's good for your son to see what the schools/students are like in person, if that's something you are able to do. Try to do that when they are in session. </p>
<p>You are right to be interested, but this will ultimately be your son's decision (unless there are financial restrictions you need to set, of course.), so let him take a lot of the initiative. From experience I can say that boys don't seem to be as interested in the process as girls, but they still don't want you to choose their college.</p>
<p>Good luck--it is challenging and a hassle, but it can be fun, too!</p>