<p>I just hate how I meet so many people and then never get to talk to them again, or barely even talk to them after one long conversation. It's like what's the point?</p>
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I hate always having to make SO much effort to seek people out, but I know it's part of the whole experience with making new friends.
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<p>Eh, screw it. Who cares. Having friends isn't important anyway. I have maybe one or two people I consider friends because I actually get to hear about their life while they hear about mine from week to week (instead of hi how are you ... blah blah blah ... cya later ... <em>never see them again</em>).</p>
<p>I hate college right now. I keep thinking about how great it was at high school. I hate the work here, its so hard and I'm worried about my GPA slipping to where I lose my $26,000 scholarship. I felt very intelligent at high school but feel really stupid at college. Everyday, I keep worrying about my assignments and midterms, damn those midterms. :( :(</p>
<p>I don't understand all those anxiety abt making friends. Comn guys its not highschool where everyone should have a peer group to feel secure. everyone's got their own life at college. its just like living in a city appartment where you don't know half of your neighbors. Its OK not to know anyone in ur dorm coz its just your place to sleep 6 hours each night. so don't feel guilty/ashamed/embarrassed that no one knows u. I am in this college for 7 weeks now and I don't know the name of 50% of my dormies coz i am never at my dorm. So, in college, do your work, take care of yourself and don't give a damn to other people. of course u can say hi to other people but don't try to get included. As for parties, go to some all campus parties. You'll find someone to say hi.
Remember: Its Ok not to have any friends coz college is not hi-school and everyone got their own life in college.</p>
<p>ADVICE: TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FACEBOOK!!!! i made some friends thro facebook.com.......add people with similar interest as friends, and message them and tell them u share the same interest and they would LOVE to meet up with u!!!!!!!!!!!!</p>
<p>IF u are a GIRL:</p>
<p>go to frat parties, guys would love to have u there. get wasted or not, dance with the guys, you WILL make friends.</p>
<p>IF u are a GUY:
try to be laid-back, and be friendly to everyone, try to help others, try to bahave well so others like you.</p>
<p>OVERALL: u will be surprised by the fact that many college kids, who u maybe think are popular, are truly lonely........people are insecure anywhere. They can be easily manipulated, they all want attention.</p>
<p>that's how my sister lost her virginity at princeton 4 days ago....</p>
<p>prash:
People dont want friends for accessories and security blankets. We want them cuz going to stuff is more fun when u have ppl to do stuff with and talk to about it. and for chicks in an urban college setting, it opens doors to night events that would be dangerous to walk alone to. i mean its not like we need huge groups. all i need is 2.</p>
<p>Hmm, never thought of facebook as a place to meet new people. Guess I'll give it a shot although I would feel creepy messaging random people I don't even know.</p>
<p>I was actually pretty popular in high school. However, that was because people there ACCEPTED me for who I was. They don't do that at my college...they're just a bunch of drunks who only care about a good booze and a good lay...</p>
<p>C'mon, mactech92. Even if the majority of students are like that at your school, which is hard to believe, I'm sure you can find a small group of people who you feel accept you for who you are.</p>
<p>I'm not having much trouble adjusting socially (maybe due to the fact that I live in the dorms only half an hour away from my home).</p>
<p>But academically, it's really hard to adjust. The classes are hard, workload is heavy, and the people here are all just plain brilliant. I'm doing about 2-3 grades lower than I did in high school, and so is everybody else I can think of. I feel like an idiot compared to everyone else. One of the things that consoles me is that everyone else feels just as stupid as I do.</p>
<p>"But academically, it's really hard to adjust. The classes are hard, workload is heavy, and the people here are all just plain brilliant. I'm doing about 2-3 grades lower than I did in high school, and so is everybody else I can think of. I feel like an idiot compared to everyone else. One of the things that consoles me is that everyone else feels just as stupid as I do."</p>
<p>EXACTLY!! That is exactly how I feel! I'm glad I'm not the only one!!</p>
<p>Just to make your lives seem better...Imagine getting sick (legitimately, not just drinking induced) with a gastrointestinal virus (probably because you took penicillin two weeks prior after getting your wisdom teeth out, and thus the 'good' bacteria in your intestinal track is gone, leaving you much more suceptible to a virus) and not being able to eat more than a few crackers and water/gatorade a day for the next week and a half, during which dropping about 15 pounds (in addition to the five you lost after getting your wisdom teeth out). Then about two weeks after you think you're better, you start reverting back to the cracker/gatorade diet for four days (so far), all the while having lots of fun taking 18 credits. I hope my venting serves a mutually beneficial purpose.</p>