<p>I feel like I 'missed the boat' too. When I was in Elementary and Middle school, I didn't hang out enough, I didn't go over peoples' houses when they invited me, and now I just feel left out. Like legolas, it's not like nobody talks to me. But I feel like the only time I socialize is at lunch and at school, and once school gets out, I'm on my own. I wish I had been more friendly in the past so I'd be in a better situation now. The good thing is I'm joining Marching Band next year, so I'm hoping to bond with people from it. I know absolutely nobody in marching band, so I'll be forced to make friends with new people, plus, since they don't really know me, I don't think anyone knows how I would never hang out. So maybe this will be my answer to not having a life.</p>
<p>I haven't had any real friends since I changed schools in 6th grade. Of course, this is probable due to my natural shyness/nerdiness. I'm not that good at socializing - most of my conversations revolve around homework help. I think most people just see me as the smart nerd with no social life (not that I can blame them), and I don't know how to change that.</p>
<p>Yeah, I'm pretty much the same. I don't really have good friends and stuff, and most ppl just come to me for HW help. The best way to deal with it is just to accept it, I guess. And yeah, I ttly agree, you have to go out and talk to ppl, and be outgoing, to get good friends. But I still think that getting good grades take priority over a superior social life.</p>
<p>Some shy high school male posts a thread bemoaning his lack of a life.</p>
<p>Posters jump in and comfort said poster, saying that all he really needs is confidence/more money/Viagra or add their sorrows to this list.</p>
<p>Post pitters out as increasingly useless suggestions are offered or the whining reaches 'headdesk' levels.</p>
<p>Rinse, repeat.</p>
<p>(We have at least one of these posts every day. People could just SEARCH and probably find 50 other posts that are exactly like this one)</p>
<p>How NOT to have a life! The Guide</p>
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Hi! So I created the blog. It's hosted here:</p>
<p>HS Socializing Blog</p>
<p>I hope you guys like it. It'd be great to have people be volunteers, and get up with ideas, etc.
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<p>Ya about the blog that's not the thing you wanted to do. What type of advice you do think you can get online? You're just gonna hear "join clubs or sports to meet people" or "just walk up to people and say hey." Simple, cliched advice. You know what to do, you're just not able to carry it out.</p>
<p>Suavemente: Come on, don't be such a jerk about it. Legolas has a pretty legitimate concern, what's so lame about starting a blog to generate ideas? Blogs are ALL about discussion, sharing your opinions, exchanging ideas; you get wisdom and information from people you normally wouldn't meet. Sure he's gotta apply the advice, but sharing that advice with everyone else ain't such a bad idea.</p>
<p>My two cents - it's all about priorities and your long term goals in life. I get good grades, do really well in my extracurriculars, and have pretty high level of ambition, but I also hang out with my friends from time to time. You just have to make it a goal for yourself; I make it a goal to hang out with my friends every week. Cos the way I look at it is - When it comes down to it, it's PEOPLE and RELATIONSHIPS that matter. </p>
<p>I'd say, focus on a few people that you really want to develop relationships with. Start small - hang out after school, even if its at the grocery shop or something. Make yourself available; if you're comfortable enough, the simplest thing to do would just be ask people if they want to hang out. And keep working it into your schedule. </p>
<p>Anyway, good luck. I sympathize with you guys who feel this way; you aren't pathetic at all in my opinion. But I agree with jamesford - you have to go OUT and actually DO things, not merely talk about it.</p>
<p>college is a great opportunity to start anew...I know a LOT of people at my school who were social misfits in HS and have blossomed in college and are well-liked and popular! </p>
<p>Also, if you're shy in college people will hunt you down and befriend you anyway...you're living in such close quarters, you can't really help it! A word of advice, though...get involved in some activities early on! They're a great way to make friends</p>
<p>^^ But that's the same argument people use between junior high and high school. People don't magically change because of a new school. You have to start making yourself more outgoing now and try to develop friendships now if you want to be able to do it at a completely new and different schol.</p>
<p>That's only if the blog even gets anywhere, which most blogs don't. </p>
<p>A blog is the exact opposite thing he should be trying to do with a goal of a better social life. He should be trying to cut down time on the computer so that he can get OUTSIDE more often. </p>
<p>If anything, get a myspace and start socializing there with people from your school; that's a good way to get things gonig.</p>
<p>I have to admit that Suavemente does have a point. Instead of talking about doing it, you should do it. Also, it's better to learn from those who do feel that they have a life instead of those who are in the same situation, assuming that most of the posters here would consider themselves not to have a life.</p>
<p>I can browse the WWW, therefore I have a life!</p>
<p>my advice: dont worry about it, you have a year to go until graduation. spend less time sulking about how bland your high school years was and more time focusing on your personal goals. To me, people who get drunk and smoke pot every weekend "have no life" while those same ppl think the same of me b/c i "study 24/7".....most likely, we are both wrong. there are positives/negatives to each situation but no side is absolutely "right". I know many people w/ tons of friends who STILL feel the same way you do.</p>