<p>Plus guys are in general less likely to react badly to teasing. Even if they are insulted, they’ll generally pretend they weren’t to avoid appearing insecure.</p>
<p>@#17: Basically, if you have to ask then don’t say it. Actually, after this it’s probably best if you refrain from irony completely for a few months.</p>
<p>There isn’t much you can say to a guy that would make them upset (in general) for the reasons stated ^ and ^^. </p>
<p>With that being said, try calling their girlfriend a slut or ugly and see what happens. It won’t be pretty.</p>
<p>If I want to use profanity or bad words to a girl sarcastically, should it be better if it was done in person so she knows who you are and that you’re not actually saying it on facebook?</p>
<p>E.G: B*tch, l0ser, or even the word “ugly” for fun.</p>
<p>^ Let me add something else to my post above.</p>
<p>Could you try it out if the girl is close friends with you? (I just know that insulting a girl who isn’t that close with you or doesn’t know you that well is a bad attempt now).</p>
<p>**Just don’t insult people. **</p>
<p>I really don’t know why this is a difficult concept for you.</p>
<p>I have friends who pick on other friends for fun that’s why. I learned from them in high school. And sometimes guys like to do that. I’ve seen a few of them like that in college so far too.</p>
<p>Yes, people do mess around that way, but if you have this much trouble determining when it is appropriate you should probably just avoid it altogether.</p>
<p>"Just don’t insult people. </p>
<p>I really don’t know why this is a difficult concept for you."</p>
<p>Haha, this. ^ I know girls in high school frequently call each other sluts, whores, etc, for “fun”, but I think it’s unnecessary, cheap, and not funny- and I have a crude sense of humor. I was hoping this stuff phases out in college.</p>
<p>Why do you so desperately want to call a girl ugly, or a slut, in any manner? Do you get some kind of thrill out of insulting people? I could never call a guy ugly, whether I knew him well or not, whether being serious or sarcastic. </p>
<p>The way this girl responded probably means that either 1) she is the type to over exaggerate everything and wasn’t that close to you, or 2) she was really insecure deep down and you made her feel a whole lot worse about herself, so she is distancing herself from you so you don’t keep hurting her. There may be other explanations, but those are the two that come to my mind.</p>
<p>Maybe your friends should start “jokingly” calling you stupid, unattractive, terrible in bed, etc., and see how quickly it gets old for you. It’s not funny after a while, and you have no idea why she reacted the way that she did.</p>
<p>You seem really insistent on insulting people “jokingly.” If you can be that clever, figure out your apology on your own.</p>
<p>some people do deserve to be insulted though</p>
<p>I do intend on apologizing to her now if I can keep bumping into her on campus, but I’m trying to give it some time here so that I don’t rush it or anything.</p>
<p>But now after what everyone here and outside the forum has told me, I do feel like I kind of insulted myself too, and thus ended the relationship like that already.</p>
<p>Going forward I suggest you remove the word ‘slut’ from your vocabulary when speaking to or about girls. (You can use it selectively on guys, though)</p>
<p>I don’t care what happen, thats just plain bad</p>
<p>I think that words like “slut” are only ok when used in a joking manner between girls. I’m all for jokingly teasing friends, and my girlfriends and I used words like slut, ugly etc all the time…but if a guy used them, even a guy I was close friends with, I’d probably be offended. Granted, I wouldn’t react like she did and block all contact or whatever, but I don’t think it’s ok for guys to use words like that towards girls. Even if she pretends to be cool with it, it probably left her with a bad taste in her mouth. If you want to jokingly tease, use words that are less “derogatory” and more clearly joking. But it’s probably best to stick to your guy friends for stuff like that, inter-gender teasing seems to come off as either flirty or offensive in the vast majority of the cases I’ve seen it.
To answer your question, just tell her you meant it jokingly and apologize, if she still doesn’t accept that, she’s <em>way</em> overreacting. Honestly, she’s probably way overreacting as it is.</p>
<p>You don’t call girls sluts. Honestly, you don’t call anyone a slut, because their sexual history doesn’t concern you. It doesn’t matter if you were joking or not, offensive terms are never funny. It’s not overreacting to be (very) upset over being called one, especially with the extremely negative connotations associated with the word.</p>
<p>Hey guys, can’t believe this was a year ago… I’ve apologized to the girl a while before already and we’re back in contact with each other again on facebook, thanks for the support guys, I appreciate it.</p>