<p>Hey guys, </p>
<p>So there's this girl who was my friend before that I use to talk to on facebook and keep in touch with. We haven't known each other for that long because I rarely see her on campus. But now I have a problem with a situation because I just lost her as my friend and I ruined the relationship by trying to sarcastically call her ugly/slut through the screen. She took them as serious and offensive and then defriended me. So does anybody here, including girls, know what my chances are being forgiven if I go up to her face and then apologize to her? </p>
<p>I didn't mean to offend her even though those aren't the words to call girls.</p>
<p>Apologizing to her face and explaining that you meant it with humor/sarcasm will be your best bet. Don’t apologize online or via phone/text. And don’t sarcastically call her (or any of your friends) an ugly slut again. Many girls are sensitive about being spoken to in such a way. You could have crushed her self esteem, if she wasn’t very confident to begin with.</p>
<p>If you apologize sincerely and she still doesn’t forgive you, then move on. If she was a good friend of yours, she should understand your humor/sarcasm and eventually forgive you. If not, there’s nothing you can do.</p>
<p>Is it bad to call a guy ugly slut too (even though that isn’t the adjective to suit offend a male)?</p>
<p>Should the next time I want to say something jokingly bitter, I should rather say that to someone in person so that they know I’m playing around?</p>
<p>… or you just don’t say it. At all. Period. </p>
<p>Try apologizing to her face. Don’t expect to be forgiven though. If she took it that seriously, I don’t know how receptive she’d be to an apology. Like Nova said, if she really was a good friend, she would have understood your humor.</p>
<p>Me and her weren’t that close. But we were just good friends. She never understood my sense of humor well enough.</p>
<p>At that time before she defriended me, I pretended to play around offend her. </p>
<p>Maybe it was a terrible decision after all…?</p>
<p>Did you ever compliment her? If all you ever did was bring her down “jokingly,” then it doesn’t sound like she was getting much out of the friendship.</p>
<p>I would be beyond offended at that. Nevertheless, a heartfelt apology is your best bet. Don’t be surprised if she doesn’t forgive you though.</p>
<p>^ I didn’t meant to be really mean or disrespectful about the person. But for the way I was trying to act, she interpreted me very differently.</p>
<p>If someone said them to you and tried to express remorse, would you want to forgive him?</p>
<p>It doesn’t matter what we want. It’s what she wants. If she never understood your sense of humor, WHY did you push the issue?</p>
<p>Do most of the time, a girl never forgives a guy for doing this?</p>
<p>What if a girl called another girl this?</p>
<p>Calling a girl a slut, even jokingly, when you guys weren’t even “that close”? That was definitely in bad taste. Apologize and move on. If she forgives you, she’s obviously a good friend. If she doesn’t…well, you can hardly blame her.</p>
<p>Err…yea…“slut” and “ugly” are words, serious or jokingly, that should never be said to a girl. That’s a general rule. If you want to joke around, use other words like “piemuncher” to insult her. Yea, crazy terms that are totally random but not only do they sound like good comebacks but they also are funny comebacks. Just go to her face and apologize. Treat her for lunch or something and make it up to her.</p>
<p>If she terminates your friendship over a simple (albeit tasteless joke), she is probably an idiot who doesn’t care about you.</p>
<p>Does she mean anything to you, anything worth keeping? If not, then just let her go. She got butthurt way too easily. If you see her around campus, just say, “Hey, I didn’t mean what I said. Just sayinn.”</p>
<p>How exactly did you say it? If you made it all serious, she probably took it the wrong way. I would never take someone serious if they were like, “yuu Uglly $lUt ~~ *.”</p>
<p>But seriously, think very carefully about this one. Her ego is so big that after being teased, she actually totally blocked all contact with you. Is this the friend who is going to stand by you through your darkest hours?</p>
<p>… how does that relate at all to her ego?</p>
<p>Lol, so if there are certain words you can’t use towards girls, are there anything that you can’t use to offend guys either?</p>
<p>^ That’s what I want to know too. :O</p>
<p>I call my friends sluts all the time. They don’t mind.</p>
<p>If you want a real answer:</p>
<p>The worst thing you could call a guy are all pejoratives for women. Men are in charge of society (patriarchy), so unless you insult their race/ethnicity, there’s nothing as hurtful you can call a guy.</p>