<p>One of our friends in our group of friends is a Barnard woman.</p>
<p>We certainly consider her our academic equal and our social equal.</p>
<p>In high school everyone knew a group that coasted and were academically superficial. It's a familiar clique. That clique does exist at Barnard and I'm not really aware of that at Columbia. </p>
<p>It's sad to see a school defined by its lowest common denominator ... or it's highest. Unfortunately, Barnard is often defined by Columbia students by its lowest and that's not fair. (See Columbia 2002's previous post on Barnard students. It's incredibly demeaning.)</p>
<p>There are many, many Barnard women who are very serious and truly interesting. My friend came from a small town and found the cozy image that Barnard presents very appealing. </p>
<p>Barnard stresses that ... I took the tour as well. You get the story, "we have these small groups, you have a serious advisor that will hold your hand, you have this academic support and you don't have to go over to that big scary Columbia unless you want to."</p>
<p>This really sells Barnard to some parents and some girls as well and they KNOW it. So the Barnard Family Decision ends up being a great compromise; the parents feels all warm and secure that their little girl is safe and the little girl gets to come to New York and be all secure and safe. They bought the Barnard package which can be very appealing.</p>
<p>But what happens when the little girl gets here and find out that she's not so insecure and she's really ready to swim in the mainstream academically and socially? Well, there's Columbia right across the street.</p>
<p>What Columbia did not sell was the reality that you will find your own niche and your own group of friends if the Admissions Committee really did their job and admitted the kind of student they really want. </p>
<p>Those Barnard girls who were really ready for a Columbia experience can basically have one if they want one.</p>
<p>Reality check: there really are packs of girls at Barnard who stand in front of the mirror for an hour and get their make up ready and their BCBG dresses all straight and go out in a group to a club and come back drunk. </p>
<p>At Columbia a coed group is more likely to be doing Oxy in a room and then heading out not really caring what they look like.</p>
<p>Just a reality check.</p>
<p>Then there's the majority that just work hard, study hard and occassionally go out.</p>