<p>There’s nothing wrong with dreaming and doing everything ethical in your power to get what you think you want, ch53pavelow, but some of the pressure you’re feeling could be alleviated by shifting your focus a little. You seem pretty intent on “the dream school.” In your case, it’s Penn. </p>
<p>I would suggest that you not let this “dream school” drive your college applications to any large extent. Take all the right steps to gain attendance, but then try your best to ignore the fact that it’s your big dream. Since you really love it at this moment, apply. Complete every financial aid and scholarship application available at Penn. And then wait.</p>
<p>Like others have said, it’s not necessarily wise to apply ED. ED is for people without financial concerns, imo. If you apply ED, you’ll be signing letters of commitment and asking others to sign along with you, even though you know that you will likely not be able to afford that choice IF it is offered to you. It is simply not wise, in your predicament, to choose a school before all financial aid offers are in.</p>
<p>Lots of kids have dream schools. The notion of a dream school can really get in the way. In nearly every case, no one, single school is the one and only great fit for any one kid. You can be very happy and thrive (academically, socially, and career-wise) at any number of schools. I am certain. Unless there are really serious individual concerns and complications, ANY kid can find any number of schools that will help them achieve their goals in life.</p>
<p>And furthermore, dream schools are not always what people think they are. You have probably idealized Penn to some extent. There are going to be things about Penn that aren’t ideal, and there are going to be lots of things about Penn that can be found elsewhere – for less money. The whole concept of “dream school” is kind of a fallacy, imo. When you adhere to that concept, you limit your own choices, unconsciously change your view of other options, and sometimes lock yourself into a school that truly is just that – a “dream.” If it’s not realistic, whether that be for finances or for merit (in your case, it seems to be more about finances), then it truly is a dream. And what good is that?</p>
<p>So go ahead and apply. And enjoy dreaming about the possibility of attending. Maybe it’ll come true! But try hard to envision yourself at any number of other great schools during this process. Particularly when finances are an issue, you’ll have better success with scholarships and financial aid, as well as college acceptances, and (most importantly) happiness in college and life, if you’ll broaden your view.</p>