<p>Your speculation on the OP is just that… speculation. I can argue that you are deluding yourself into believing that there are no rational, stable people who have friends and believe that they are unnecessary because it conflicts with your previously conceived notion that friends are necessary. This causes cognitive disonance which you are trying to resolve by belittling the people who are in favor of (or not against) a “friendless lifestlye.”</p>
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I think that untreated mental disorders are usually correlated with a shorter life span, as well as having fewer/no friends. Also, I clearly know everyone, so I can actually address your last point…</p>
<p>Sources, guys, sources.
This is cc, we should at least link to wikipedia (gasp!) or something like that. And we should discuss methodology weaknesses.</p>
<p>Everyone needs someone at some point. Don’t you ever need a hug or a kind word and a smile? The world gets mighty lonely when you don’t have anyone in your corner.</p>
<p>“I think the OP’s posts prove my point. He says he “might” need some for “connections,” whatever the hell that means.”</p>
<p>Connections later on in life, like working together, helping land a job, etc.</p>
<p>“And he says he doesn’t have “that kind of friends” but never says what kind of “friends” he does have.”</p>
<p>I have acquaintances. I have no idea how to make them friends, though, and frankly I’m the one who has to say “hey” first to them before they say it to me - it’s as though they don’t care what I do for them and how I try to approach them.</p>
<p>“He never mentions friends outside of college.”</p>
<p>I never had a single friend in high school. I always had people to ask brief questions about school stuff and whatnot, I was never shy to do what I had to do. But no friends (and don’t get me wrong, I was active in clubs, acted friendly to people, etc).</p>
<p>“This makes it seem like he does not have any friends anywhere, and that he is deluding himself into believing he doesn’t need them.”</p>
<p>I’ve actually never had a single friend in my life, believe it or not.</p>
<p>"As for your last point, what are you trying to say? That those tests are unfairly biased because there are plenty of friendless people who don’t have mental disorders and do just fine? Show me a person who doesn’t have ANY friends anywhere and who also does not have a mental/emotional disorder of some sort. "</p>
<p>I haven’t tested for a mental disorder lately.</p>
<p>I don’t have siblings and extended family, I just have my parents, who I have good relations with.</p>
<p>Don’t worry, I’m not going to be one of those miserable grumpy old people who die unhappily. I’ve lived 19 years without a single friend and manage to be a happy and friendly (yes, friendly, even though I have no real friends) person.</p>
<p>I’ve always wanted friends, though, since I thought that would be a nice change in life. But for some reason I can’t make any.</p>
<p>I don’t really have friends here either. The only people that I was somewhat friendly with were the people I knew in band, but I quit band this year and feel like I lost all connection to them.</p>
<p>Friends are necessary. Sometimes I wish I had someone to lean on, cry to, talk with, hang out with, last semester when I was feeling pretty much down. I feel like it screws with my mental being by not having friends. But I’ve always been like that since I was a kid. I never really cared for friends because I didn’t trust people and have been hurt or betrayed by them. So now I push anyone away that seems to get close.</p>
<p>I know I’m not the only one. Sometimes I wish I could get together with the other kids on campus that feel lonely and become friends with them.</p>
<p>it’s always nice to have someone to go shopping with, talk about guys,to have fun with clubbing, parties, meeting potential other people, ranting your problems too, borrowing stuff in times of need whatever…</p>
<p>Otherwise you’re bound to get lonely …and that’s never fun. :/</p>
<p>Well, at least you have people who try to be close to you - I only have people who push me away when I try to get close to them. Not that any of that has made me a depressed loser or anything, but that’s just the way it always was.</p>
<p>^ yeah, i know there’s always gonna be fake **<strong><em>es out there but you always gotta watch out for the fake ones. So be careful…don’t take *</em></strong> from ANYONE & don’t have regrets if something goes “wrong”. As cheesy as it sounds just be yourself…except try being more friendlier and open…try opening up the others by sharing similar interests which always, always works when you’re trying to make friends…gets the conversation moving :)</p>
<p>Well, I suppose that you did provide a potential example of a “a person who doesn’t have ANY friends anywhere and who also does not have a mental/emotional disorder of some sort,” so you get credit for that. But I had wrongly assumed that you were hinting that you had some form of friends somewhere.</p>
<p>Interestingly enough, I came to a sort of a realization through this little thread of my own… I’ve felt for a while that there was something missing in my life, and I think friendship is what’s missing from that… I may be just temporarily thinking this out of my consideration on this issue, but anyways, friends are one thing I have never been able to get…</p>
<p>So what’s the way to go one step further with mere acquaintances and collaborators and turn them into friends?</p>
<p>Well for me, it is necessary. I mean college would be so lonely without having friends. Well if you can make it four years without friends, then by all means do so.</p>
<p>You could ask them if they want to hang out, or what they’re doing this weekend and if you’re interested in what they’re doing, ask if you could come along.
Also if you haven’t already, join a club/group that is of interest to you. That’s how I meet my closest friends in college.</p>
<p>I have the same problem. I have hardly any friends, no longer even have a cell phone because nobody had my number and those who did never called. I’m losing all motivation to do stuff as well since I have nothing to do in my free time, I can put my studying off. Honestly, it is very depressing. I scored a 100% on the first ochem test this semester and have nobody to tell or am not even slightly proud of myself. Weekends are the worst. I either go home and sit on a couch all day or stay at school barricaded in my room ■■■■■■■■ the web. The only side effect I have is severe insomnia likely cause by me being in my room too much and lack of exercise.</p>
<p>I LOVE THIS POST! Honestly, during my 4 years of college, i got more work done with only a few friends (2 close ones) Its called college for a reason, to get a good eduction not to win Mr. popularity contest! Am i right folks? </p>
<p>And i agree with what everyone said, you DON’T NEED friends in college. Being by myself most of the 4 years, it gave me more time to do what i LOVE (runing, workingout, sleep) And help me become more independent!</p>