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<p>Don’t you think you get used to being homeless just like you get used to eating lunch alone?</p>
<p>Also, not all homeless people are hungry, etc. Friendlessness can be just as extreme (in terms of the suffering) as homelessness. </p>
<p>It’s easy to overestimate the value of homes and food because those are very concrete things. When you think of losing all your friends it’s less obvious what the consequences would be.</p>
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A friendless person can still contribute to society just as much as a person with friends, while a homeless person can barely survive and only cares where their next meal is. Your comparison, quite frankly, is ridiculous. Shelter is a need, friends are a luxury. The dichotomy is quite clear and there is no “gray” area. </p>
<p>Without friends, you can still work and earn a living and fulfill all of your basic needs, while most homeless people cannot. How many homeless scientists, doctors, professionals can you even name? And no, this is not meant to be insulting in any way towards homeless people. Just trying to make a point.</p>
<p>I know I said I was done, but that comment you made about introverts was so ignorant…do you even know what the definition of an introvert is? You obviously don’t.</p>
<p>What you cannot seem to fathom, and I don’t quite understand why, is that someone might actually prefer reading a book to going out with other people, or–dare I say it–thinking (read: pondering) as opposed calling someone up on the phone.</p>
<p>If you’re definition of “friend” is a person in which someone can confide, I am thoroughly baffled. I already told you I have family for that purpose at this point in my life.</p>
<p>There are people who go on to climb mountains, go hiking, run marathons etc. and they do it ALONE. Believe it or not, there is a very large minority of people who are independent enough that their self-worth does not depend on something so frivolous as the number of contacts they have on Facebook. These people aren’t maladjusted or bitter, they’re introverted, introspective and thoughtful. </p>
<p>History is littered with scientists and writers who fit this very description.</p>
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<p>Most people who are chronically homeless are maladjusted to society in some way. There are people who can’t make friends because they too are maladjusted, there are people who can’t make friends because they are shy and so they embrace an introspective lifestyle, and there are people who don’t really care to make friends simply for the sake of having them.</p>
<p>Can you produce any statistical evidence to back your ridiculous claims that friendless people are just “settling” and are deep-down really depressed? If not, then please stop it with these bold assertions. Just because you cannot live a life without friends does not mean others can’t. You’re projecting your own biases on others, seeing as you lack the facts to support your claims.</p>
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<p>okay, sure a friendless person can contribute to society as much as a person with friends, but do they? generally no.</p>
<p>Also, so could a homeless person. you could have a job and be homeless (there is a homeless forum where people who are homeless post, and many people of them are much happier and more well-fed than you seem to think)</p>
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<p>Why is everyone so glued to idea of a starving homeless person…some homeless people are just looking alcohol or drugs, not whatever home-cooked meal you’re imagining.</p>
<p>okay definitely a ■■■■■</p>
<p>Introversion does not mean friendlessness. Introverts can have many friends and be social, they just need to take it in smaller doses and sort of recharge their batteries. Conversely, extroverts thrive in social situations and are going out often but don’t really know what to do with themselves when they’re alone.</p>
<p>e: How the hell do you think a person without friends cannot contribute to society? You know what group of people are pretty god damn social and don’t contribute to society? Gangbangers and hoodrats.</p>
<p>@academy: Dude for the sake of the world, just drop the homelessness thing. Okay, you think homelessness is analogous to friendlessness. Just drop it.</p>
<p>@Rio: academy has to be a ■■■■■. Because anyone with at least one brain cell would know that introversion isn’t the same as friendlessness. I have a select few friends and yet I’m an introvert. Some people don’t need to have people in their face 24/7 and some people just need some more alone time than the average person (the average person is extroverted).</p>
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<p>I am not claiming they are deep-down really depressed, to clear things up.</p>
<p>I am saying that 1) the act of settling for it is a sad thing and 2) they are probably not as happy as they would be with friends.</p>
<p>I know you can live a life without friends. Many people do. I am not disputing that.</p>
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“Generally” is not an acceptable answer. Do you have facts to back up your claims? If not, stop generalizing and projecting. There are plenty of scientists throughout history who have never had friends, and have contributed vast amounts to human knowledge. </p>
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<p>i think the homeless thing is over, guys</p>
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<p>Sorry I am not being clear. I completely understand wanting to read more than talking to friends, etc. </p>
<p>I know many people are satisfied being alone. I just think some of these people would be happier if they weren’t alone, even if this is hard to admit. Also I think it is sad when someone settles for being alone, when they are one of those people who would be happier with a close friend or two.</p>
<p>My definition of friend is someone who you are comfortable around and who you like, who’s not an immediate family member.</p>
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<p>They homeless people likely work minimum wage, sure, but the trade off is that they have friends.</p>
<p>There are a lot of friendless people that would work minimum wage if it meant they would magically have friends</p>
<p>To clear something up:</p>
<p>Introverts are not necessarily friendless; in fact, most have plenty of friends I would assume!</p>
<p>My point about introverts is I think the label can be misused. It can be misused by people without friends to excuse their friendlessness. And I don’t like to see it used that way, because I think it prevents some people from figuring out the real reasons for why they don’t have friends, which is something I see as sad - settling for friendlessness when it’s not in your best interests as a human.</p>
<p>Do you see what I’m saying?</p>
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Proof? Or is this just another one of your sweeping generalizations that you conveniently do not have any evidence to support?</p>
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<p>Then you are either still not being clear or ■■■■■■■■. I have plenty of people who I am comfortable around and who I like. I spend very little time with them, but when I do I feel that it is time well-spent.</p>
<p>This might surprise you, but I’ve sat alone at a lunch table, had people come up to me offering a seat at their table, and politely turned them down. I’m a 4.0 uw student and a state-qualified athlete, so I’m not depressed, nor am I conceited. I’m just picky about who I spend my time with. I prefer to spend time doing homework or being alone if I’m at lunch.</p>
<p>Eccentric? By your standards, yes. Dangerous? No. Unhealthy and comparable to homelessness? Not in the least.</p>
<p>Also, how can you possibly say that most people are that are friendless are settling and are truly not content with their lives? Objectively, how are you so sure that if they were to have friends, their lives would be much better? </p>
<p>Why is that you cannot accept that some people would rather prefer not to have friends?</p>
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<p>I was never meaning to imply anything about the friends you do or don’t have. I’m happy that you have some people you are comfortable around and who you like - that sounds nice.</p>
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<p>That does not surprise me. I wouldn’t want to sit with 80% of kids at my hs if they invited me to sit with them, if I was sitting alone. I am not claiming you are in any way depressed or sad.</p>
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<p>my god, why would you even think of dangerous, that question would never enter my mind. And neither do I think of you as very eccentric - in fact, you are the type of kid that I would probably appreciate.</p>
<p>It is probably comparable to some people’s homelessness. people do live most homeless just like they live mostly friendless, and with sufficient happiness. You just need to visit the homeless forum to see that.</p>
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<p>The social anxiety forum has a high density of friendless people, and many of them want friends quite a lot.</p>
<p>Now, it may be that only the people who want friends are expressing themselves (sampling bias), but it at least shows there are a number of friendless people that would trade things like higher-paying jobs for friends. I don’t know if it’s most.</p>
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