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<p>I answered “no” for that one (I already wrote a college admission essay, my own. Once was enough) and for the contacting anyone at the colleges but I was advised to “reevaluate your role.”</p>
<p>My conclusion? They can kiss my Irish arse. We know our kid best and have followed his lead.</p>
<p>My husband is the real problem. He flys helicopters for a living and he’s a parent. Helicopter parent alert!</p>
<p>Well, I answered based on my level of involvement back when my kids were applying to colleges, and got a “stay the course”. I do think there are specific questions that trigger a different response.</p>
<p>Based on playing around with the quiz, it looks like a high number of “yes” answers can trigger the “Reevaluate your Role” and that another strong tip-factor question is the one about contacting faculty or coaches at the prospective college.</p>
<p>I’m actually surprised at how many questions can be answered “yes” and still have the results come out “stay the course.”</p>
<p>Artiesdad: I love this “For those of you that watch 24, I like to think of myself as kind of a ‘Chloe O’Brian’; confined to headquarters but ready to reposition the satellites on short notice and send Jack the information he needs to fight the bad guys.”
That is so me. Recently, my sophomore son had car trouble. I looked up the auto shop name we used last year up at college and texted him the info. He handled calling AAA and getting things taking care of.</p>
<p>I got stay the course. I think it is hard to sit on the sidelines when you know your kids have potential but they dont think they do or dont realize they do.</p>
<p>I have a friend who wrote all of her dd scholarship applications. She did great, but where was the benefit to the daughter?</p>
<p>I think applying for college is one of those milestones that the kids have to do themselves. Otherwise they will expect for us to be with them when they are applying for their first job. Odd as it sounds, I know of moms that have gone with their kids to their first job interview. Now that is hovering.</p>
<p>Bandie Mom: Exactly as I posted earlier. My company had to write a company policy a few years ago that only the applicant can be in the interview, not a parent, spouse etc. Another manager told me that he had gotten a phone call from the mother of one of his staff telling him to ease up on her son. The son was feeling stressed and was unhappy about a less than stellar evaluation. This manager’s response was “It is time you let your son grow up” and he hung up the phone. The employee was 25 years old and a college graduate.</p>
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<p>I’m improving, several years ago when S1 was going through this there was a quiz here on CC and I got a score of needs to be more involved so yes! I’ve improved thanks to CC.</p>
<p>I got “stay the course” but I am sure if I took this quiz a year ago it would have said</p>
<p>“you are flying too close”</p>
<p>Took the quiz for my parents from when I was in HS… oh, wow, I didn’t think of them as helicopter parents back then… 0_o. I guess they really backed off once I entered college!</p>
<p>But then again, they’re still helicopter parents. My dad actually reads the student newspaper at my brother’s school whereas he never did for my schools!</p>
<p>They most definitely DO not talk to the professors at their own will…thank goodness! Well, except when professors happen to be in the same room as they are. And uh, yeah, my mother gave my UG advisor a BIG hug when I finally introduced the two of them at the department party for graduating seniors… I was mortified.</p>
<p>I took this quiz for my parents and I answered no for every question and of course I got the get more involved response. I think this is ■■■■■■■■. I think it is a good thing that a teenager is responsible enough to handle all these things on their own and, honestly, I think that teenagers frequently know a lot more about applying to colleges nowadays then their parents. Teenagers are about to go out into the “real world” and do not need to be sheltered and babied by their parents or anyone else for that matter.</p>
<p>I take it that you plan to pay your own way through college? </p>
<p>Because the kid whose parents answer “no” to question 11 (“Have you discussed with your child which colleges you can afford and how your family will pay for them?”) may end up with very limited options.</p>
<p>I think a lot depends on the kids & circumstances. For me, I needed to be involved because at the point when S was applying, he spent about 1/2 of his junior & senior years lying in bed, too ill to do much. I can’t imagine backing down & doing less than I did. He, the universities and I wanted my level of involvement, particularly in talking with the disabilities office to be sure they could meet his needs.</p>
<p>In the final analysis, I guess it has worked quite well, since both kids are happy at their dream U. S is graduating on schedule & has several job offers to choose among & D is planning to graduate either within 4 years after she left HS or soon therafter. Both seem quite happy with life.</p>
<p>I got Stay the Course! <em>beam</em> I am helpful, but I’m more like her staff than her director. I help in the ways she asks me to, if I can.</p>
<p>I answered Yes to question “7. Are you planning to write your child’s application essays or fill out his or her college applications?” and No to all other questions.</p>
<p>Response:</p>
<p>Reevaluate Your Role: Consider talking to your child about your involvement and shifting more of the responsibility for college consideration and choice to your child.</p>
<p>I tried again with Yes to all questions and still got the same result:</p>
<p>Reevaluate Your Role: Consider talking to your child about your involvement and shifting more of the responsibility for college consideration and choice to your child.</p>
<p>It did not say I am a helicopter though.</p>
<p>I got ‘Stay the Course’ too.</p>