<p>Our D has been at BS for 2 months now. Parents weekend is coming up, but, we haven't heard a thing about how it is going (other than for D herself). I know that no news generally means good news, but we were hoping for some feedback, some dialogue, just to know that the school is paying attention, getting to know her, etc. Is no information normal? Is it the case that if we want to hear more, we must provoke it? (and, with whom--is there anyone other than her advisor, who doesn't have D in class, dorm, etc). Please let me know what other experiences are.</p>
<p>My S started school in mid-September. I have exchanged emails with house counselor, catering department (birthday celebration) and with cluster dean. All of the email responses were prompt, courteous and provided the information that I needed. In addition, I have received emails pertaining to campus news and events. I too will be attending Parent’s Weekend in few days and look forward to learning more about my S’s experience.</p>
<p>I do think it’s appropriate and normal to get some sort of note from your daughter’s advisor, especially at the start of freshman year, if only to give you a quick tidbit or two about how it’s going. You may have gotten someone a bit lazy in that regard. I wouldn’t overly worry though.</p>
<p>Why don’t you dash off a quick email to her advisor that says something like “Really curious about how it’s going! Any news, updates or thoughts?”</p>
<p>Hmmm…I think you should have heard something. Our son’s advisor called us a couple of weeks before family w/e to just check in and see how things were going from our perspective and to fill us in on how he perceived things were going. I agree…send an email or give a call. I am sure they will be happy to hear from you and receptive.</p>
<p>At my son’s school, they said not to worry if you do not hear, as no news IS good news. We happened to be in the area this weekend and went for a visit. Every teacher, coach etc we saw, knew who our son was and how he was doing in every subject, even which tests he had aced or not. It was a real eye-opener…we were thinking he was flying under the radar and perhaps that was why we had heard nothing except for the weekly newsletter…But it was not true, it was just that things were progressing well and there was no pressing need. However his advisor did say if we were ever just wanting an update, we could drop a note and he would be happy to let us know all via email or phone. If parents weekend is very soon, perhaps just wait and speak to the advisor when you see them…otherwise perhaps just send an email expressing a desire for an update.</p>
<p>Four years ago when my daughter was a freshman, her advisor called about every two weeks until parent’s weekend. It was a great way to get a feel for how things were going.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t worry too much if you haven’t heard anything. My BS at least has always been very proactive if there is ever anything wrong. For example, if you get a C+ in a class your parents are informed well ahead of even midterms (3 weeks into the term actually) so something can be done. If they are having discipline problems, same. If they have trouble adjusting to BS, same again.</p>
<p>It depends on the school. If you feel the need, you should contact the school and ask for an update. At my school, parents get an update almost a week before parents weekend - a “mid-quarter report.” You could always email the teachers, her advisor, or her dean.</p>