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<blockquote> <p>Actually most teachers I know have husbands who make 2 -4 times as much as they do>></p> </blockquote>
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<p>Not wishing to hijack this thread, but this comment is unnecessary and implies that teachers only work as teachers because they have sugar daddy husbands. I'm a teacher. I have no more wealth than any other parent who will be putting two children through private colleges next year. I am totally offended by this assumption.</p>
<p>I should have been more clear about what I meant by "spending money"</p>
<p>Even those of you who insist on their kids raising their own spending money are probably "funding" things that this kid's mom cannot. Such as laptop, printer, dorm needs -- a huge list that probably most of the posters here pay for their kids.</p>
<p>I amazed at how almost resentful some of the posts to this thread have been. This kid should be applauded for being Val of his class despite his poor background.</p>
<p>BTW: Teachers who are married to other teachers (or police officers or whatever) have combined salaries ($80K+) that are much higher than this kid's poor mom.</p>
<p>thumper: </p>
<p>I wasn't implying anything like "sugar daddy husbands".</p>
<p>I was once a teacher, I have many friends who are teachers and I have 3 sis-in-laws who are currently teachers. Most or all have said that if they didn't have their husbands higher salaries to help make the house payment, etc, they would seek other higher paying employment.</p>
<p>To make this more clear, I know many husbands whose jobs require MUCH out of town traveling who say that they couldn't do their job if they didn't have a wife who either worked part-time or stayed at home. That DOESN'T mean that these husbands looked for Susie Homemaker or anything like that. H & W's make decisions based on their circumstances.</p>
<p>Dear Calmom: Thank you, thank you! I have made my decision. I think that you are right. I had begun hoping that someone would more or less let me off the hook on this. I hadnt thought about the respect others probably have for my teacher. </p>
<p>And to jlauer95: Thank you so muchyour heart is big! You were right about spending money: Spending money would be for transportation because we have only one car and no one else from my town is going to my college. And I do worry about the other kids in my class who pretty much got zilch because of this situation. They dont know what has happened, but knowledge of the schools behavior hasnt exactly made me happy. I guess I shouldnt risk making them unhappy. </p>
<p>Because I posted here and because of all your comments, I have really had to think about what is bothering me. Its not the money. Its the betrayalas you can tell, it isnt the first time thats happened to me. It is a bad deal to be betrayed by either ones father or ones school, but the only thing to do is learn from it. I have no control over whether others betray me; I can only manage my own actions. I will remember this and always try to be fair.</p>
<p>I probably wont be in the real world for at least four years, but if this is the worst that ever happens to me, Im in luck. </p>
<p>Thanks!</p>
<p>Aid: Best to you. And don't forget to hug your mom!! She did a great job raising YOU!!!</p>